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Offline Froderik

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« Reply #90 on: August 29, 2007, 11:27:08 PM »
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Another control freak asshole parent,they drive me up a wall and back down again.

Asshole parent, stop being a control freak and have confidence in your daughter that she won't grow up to be a control freak, asshole parent like you.

:rofl: :tup:
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« Reply #91 on: August 30, 2007, 07:57:44 AM »
She's scared and with good reason considering what shes been led to believe

hows about trying to encoutrage this parent to relax and find out who her daughter really is rather than run her off the bioard into the arms of some ed con who'll be seeing $$ signs
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« Reply #92 on: August 30, 2007, 08:39:37 PM »
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She's scared and with good reason considering what shes been led to believe

hows about trying to encoutrage this parent to relax and find out who her daughter really is rather than run her off the bioard into the arms of some ed con who'll be seeing $$ signs


Who said Edcons aren't on this board right now?  :rofl:

BTW, check your spelling, and stop posting drunk. Go straddle someone's cock and sweat it all out of your system or something, sheesh.

BTW didnt you have it in with your sons over porn once? Why not go lend him a hand?  8-)
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« Reply #93 on: August 30, 2007, 08:47:37 PM »
Your kid in therapy? Why don't you just let her kill herself lol. I mean, seriously, therapy? and home schooling? Damn bitch, if you want to teach someone to swim, throw them in the fucking pool, don't ease them into a retarded sense of false security. You're the very definition of a terrible parent - fuck what everyone else does, if you limit your child's development by being so anally involved in their life, you're just ruining it. Seriously, let the little fucking cuntbox kill itself, it's just dead weight. Maybe it'll teach you a lesson on how to parent right. Idiot.

Well, if you want to send your kid to a camp, go right ahead. At least that ensures she gets raped 3 ways from Tuesday before she kills herself in a frightful manner.
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« Reply #94 on: August 30, 2007, 08:55:30 PM »
Try for something like Peninsula Village. They'll be too busy having her tied down in a bed (or elsewhere) being kept awake and tortured or raped to hurt herself or get away, EVER.
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« Reply #95 on: August 30, 2007, 09:34:28 PM »
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She's scared and with good reason considering what shes been led to believe

hows about trying to encoutrage this parent to relax and find out who her daughter really is rather than run her off the bioard into the arms of some ed con who'll be seeing $$ signs


Yeah, scared because she is so used to being a control freak and the nanosecond her daughter does something that she remotely disagrees with,she starts hyperventilating.

Yes, she needs to relax but she should not have allowed it to to get this point.If she would listen to her daughter, be reasonable, she wouldn't have to go on any forum looking for advice on anything to do with her and her daughter's relationship.

There is NOTHING WRONG WITH HER DAUGHTER,SHE IS THE PROBLEM. You can't solve the problem unless you work on the problem and SHE IS THE PROBLEM.

Now if she came on a forum looking for advice on how to stop being a control freak,asshole parent, then I would say that she acknowledges that SHE IS THE PROBLEM and is taking a good first step in solving the problem.
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« Reply #96 on: August 30, 2007, 09:53:28 PM »
Yeah AAers should be familiar with steps, joking aside... Chillout lady you got a normal kid, blame God j/k don't strike me down Lord
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« Reply #97 on: August 30, 2007, 10:32:42 PM »
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Yeah AAers should be familiar with steps, joking aside... Chillout lady you got a normal kid, blame God j/k don't strike me down Lord


Watch yourself there my man.
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« Reply #98 on: August 30, 2007, 11:44:16 PM »
Anal gang rape can be an important component of Positive Peer Culture. It has a tendency to teach kids a little humility.
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« Reply #99 on: August 31, 2007, 05:53:46 AM »
some of you members of very sick and need some serious help. Sick Sick People
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« Reply #100 on: August 31, 2007, 07:29:32 AM »
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some of you members of very sick and need some serious help. Sick Sick People


If you are right, then you have to ask yourself how they got to be like that.

But look at the bottom line: What is the case here?

We have a 14 year old girl. She is trying to act like an adult and make adult decisions like most teenagers. Some decisions are good and some bad.

The parents are properly at my age and were teenagers during the 70's and 80's.

The world did not look like the world today back then. That we regarded as fact and boundaries are not existing today. The fact that I can write this is proof enough. There were no internet back then. There were no cell-phones. Naugty messages were passed in the classes to other children the parents could see. Not a stranger in another town or another country. Back in my days we had to buy porn in a shop where our parent could be either a customer or a employee. Now it is a click away and with parents busy doing their own job, none is around to tell the child if BDSM is like things should be normally done or a hobby for the few.

So the parents of this girl do have good reasons to be worried. They do not know how the life of a teenager is today and because your country have criminalized some of the normal teenager stuff, the parents can not go for a walk to the place where all the city knows that youth hangs out and drink to talk to their child.

So they turn to the so-called profs. And when money comes into the picture, someone is getting rich at their expense. That is not the worst part. The worst part is that they are actually kept from the solution. The solution is communication. Undisturbed communication!

Among all the programs, there are offered, only one type is useful when we are talking normal teenager behavior. That is family therapy programs.

The case is that the child is lying. Where did she get it from? From the parent. If you are a parent (I am), you will properly have lied to your child already (I have done that. "A mouse have eaten the chocolate" was my answer to my 3 year old daughter at the time. A couple of years later was it her answer to me.)

Some may argue that family therapy can be done at home and for the most part it is true. But are you really at peace in your own house. Do you not answer your phone, cell-phone or email? I do.

So the next-best thing is to go to a remote place where you can get some kind of support because you as parent is too close to the situation and you are not updated. This girls parents were not updated. They also need support and perhaps even at much treatment as the girls does - maybe even more.

The girl is also stealing and that should be regarded as sign that she is asking for help. Something in her life is so painful that she can not speak about it. Are there other signs? Is she cutting herself on the top of it, so some of the pain can go away? This is clearly a question about the parents being able to listen and learn.

So I recommended the only program Aspen had, that is not abusive by nature: The family program.

It is the only program that can be stopped at any time because the parents can leave if they or their child are violated. Better solutions could be at hand, but it demands that the parents for once are able to cut all the disturbance from the daily life away for the time that is needed and I do not think that they are able to achieve that in their home.

What do you think that they should do?
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« Reply #101 on: August 31, 2007, 10:25:00 AM »
Cover, there is nothing wrong with this kid. From the mums own admission!!! The mom needs to work on here own fears and leave her daughter alone and trust me if Aspen gets a hold to this lady they will have her convinced that the kid needs the programing we all know and love.
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« Reply #102 on: August 31, 2007, 11:36:47 AM »
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Cover, there is nothing wrong with this kid. From the mums own admission!!! The mom needs to work on here own fears and leave her daughter alone and trust me if Aspen gets a hold to this lady they will have her convinced that the kid needs the programing we all know and love.


Cover thanks for your response and I never said there was nothing wrong lying , stealing, cutting , disrespect, yes all of those things aren't normal behavior and we are in family therapy too.

I have checked in to aspen family there is nothing here in the US.  I am not doing anything with her at the moment. She has lost lots of priveleges due to not following the family contract and it will remain that way until things change with her that is the only thing happening now
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« Reply #103 on: August 31, 2007, 12:44:34 PM »
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She's scared and with good reason considering what shes been led to believe

Nah, she started seeking 'help' for her daughter because she was 'disrespectful and would end up being an alcoholic'.  This is a fundie nutbag that can't handle the fact that her daughter has a mind of her own.


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hows about trying to encoutrage this parent to relax and find out who her daughter really is rather than run her off the bioard into the arms of some ed con who'll be seeing $$ signs


She's gone already.  Someone who's that drunk on Kool Aid ain't gonna be too receptive to this.  But I do hate to see these conversations go south.
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« Reply #104 on: August 31, 2007, 12:48:27 PM »
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::noway:: ::puke::

You have no business talking to remotely sane people. Get the fuck off this forum. I only hope she cuts your goddamn throat- ear to fucking ear, with a six inch blade- for this kind of shit.
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