Ginger, you are obviously not a parent of any of the children who are there. It is really not any of your concern. You obviously are into drama, because you keep stirring things up with your comments and off-base input to Paige. Yes, what I say is true. I know for a fact. I am a relative of one of the children there. I have heard the voice of the girl in question in the background (I know, because I have asked who that was in the background). There is no yelling, no screaming, not negative anything. The girls are happy. They are positive. They hold each other accountable for negative behavior. The girls are well cared for. And, while on the phone, the girl in question has made numerous positive comments about her mom! You have allowed yourself to get sucked up into a drama. The girl is healthy and she is happy. I have seen pictures. They are not being hidden. They are living in a clean, beautiful house, in a safe community. I am truly sorry that the woman who adopted the brother is having such a hard time coming to grips with this, but the girl is doing great! Ginger, are you a parent? How would you feel about someone trying to stick their nose in and tell you how to raise your children? The girl is being well fed, has a clean bed with clean bedding to sleep on. The woman who adopted the brother has not been there. She has, unfortunately, worked herself up into a frenzy about something she doesn't know. Life is like that. We are afraid of the unknown. She doesn't know and she is afraid. The girl is fine. What teenage girl has ever wanted to do something she hasn't wanted to do? This is not something unique to this girl. Thank God her parents love her enough to show tough love to get her help before she is out on her own. At least now, they can help her with the bad choices she makes. When she is 21 and out on her own, they will not be in a position to help. Our criminal court system is over run with rebellious individuals who were not shown tough love as teens. As a parent, I know, my choices are not always popular with my kids. However, my son, who now lives across the country from me, calls me frequently just to say, "I love you mom, have a great day" and "I love you, you're a great mom." I assure you Ginger, he did not always feel that way. I made many decisions that did not please him when he was the age of the girl in question. But, as his parent, I did what I felt was best for his development, even when relatives who did not live with us to see the day to day problems, critisized my decisions. The child in question is not, and has not lead a sweet innocent life. This isn't about Paige, this isn't about the girl's mom. It is about helping this girl to learn to make appropriate choices, and understanding that there are consequenses to her actions. You know that. For example, if you choose to not pay your bills, you choose to have your electricity turned off. That is how all of life is. The girl is making bad choices without looking at the consequences down the road. It would have had to been a heart breaking choice to make, to send her there, but it was what her parents thought best. And, her parents are the ones who live with her day to day. I wish more parents would admit when they need help (as her parents did) and then get it, rather than just tolerate their children's bad behavior, eventually leading to a life in prison.
