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What Exhausted demonstrates to her sons is the willingness to grow, change, and improve herself right along with them.
i persoanlly don't think it would work in any other way for MY kids - what use is a family contract that only involves the kids conforming? the kids aren't the family, we all are, if I don't stick to it and do some listening, paying attention, stop being a whinebag, then how can i possibly ask them to stick to their side of it?
To me it's not about controlling them, or them controlling me, it's about compromise that we can all see on paper, it's easier to stick to when it's there written down ... I've wanted to burn it many times when those crosses build up, thinking it isn't working, but that one tick is what keeps us going, that's what makes it worth it and believe me, the ticks are overshadowing the crosses by a long way.....it's taken 10 weeks to get the chart lookng like that, but 10 weeks well worth spending sticking it out.
As for those program contracts, wtf?? The kids are in a lose lose situation all the way, ugh, and to think i used to think that way... poor kids