Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Benchmark Young Adult School / Benchmark Transitions
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exhausted:
Yes they do, unfortunately they are on the route to prison, I can't stop them, they know where they're heading, it's up to them now to change that path
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---Well at least it didn't make them angry for a change, they just said okay, and came told me they love me
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This is the reaction I was expecting.
--- Quote ---I can't stop them, they know where they're heading, it's up to them now to change that path
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And by their reaction, it sounds like they're going to.
*golf clap* Round of applause, folks. Round of applause.
exhausted:
I guess we have to reach some sort of rock bottom before anything changes drastically, maybe they've reached it, who knows, I could be tearing my hair out tomorrow, but today it's okay (apart from the damn railway fine I got for one of them!)
Let's hope we're on the up as a family eh?
And they got to watch TV in bed tonight cos they stayed in on their grounding today and they have been pleasant company this evening
White Cracker Man:
Glad to hear it, Exhausted.
AtomicAnt:
--- Quote from: ""exhausted"" ---I guess we have to reach some sort of rock bottom before anything changes drastically, maybe they've reached it, who knows, I could be tearing my hair out tomorrow, but today it's okay (apart from the damn railway fine I got for one of them!)
Let's hope we're on the up as a family eh?
And they got to watch TV in bed tonight cos they stayed in on their grounding today and they have been pleasant company this evening
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Okay, one of them owes the family for the price of the fine. An allowance is a kid's fair share of the family resources. A fine is not. I suggest money is not an acceptable form of 'payment' for the fine. How about housekeeping (dishes, vaccuuming) or how about he makes dinner for the family? Fair is fair.
Grounding lacks imagination. Appeal to his sense of what is fair and be creative as to how to balance the scales. Maybe he can can come up with his own idea. Hold a family meeting and decide what is fair as a team.
What I am getting at is that they are too old and out of control for you to be the sole boss and so it is time they were involved in both making and enforcing the family rules.
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