And I continue to be amazed at your refusal to see that these programs are fucked FROM THE INCEPTION!!! Yes, some kids are able to come through it relatively unscathed but that does not negate the vast majority, IMO, that have been harmed. I'v e stated a couple of times just in the past few days that it's not just the physical abuse. There are programs where that doesn't seem to be a problem but that doesn't mean they're helpful or even safe. The damage that was the most difficult for me to deal with came from the emotional and mental abuse. I was never beaten but I sure was fucked up for years afterward. There are 5 other people that went to the same place I did at the same time that I still stay in touch with. Two are family members. One has been married 5 times, she's 40. Her brother has two kids that he won't let out of his sight, literally. They (15 and 12) are not allowed to spend the night anywhere including with family members. A couple that met in there are both considered very successful. Both nurses, raising two kids, nice house, well respected etc. After 10 years of marriage it comes out that the husband has been seeing hookers once or twice a week the entire marriage and the wife decided 5 years ago that she was gay and began affairs with her friends. The last has been in and out of jail or rehab since getting out over 20 years ago. The point in telling you about all these people is that the damage from these places manifests itself in many different forms. The nursing couple I spoke of have both been 'sober' ever since getting out 20+ years ago. The program people consider them a great success. Never mind that they were so traumatized by what happened in there that their lives have completely fallen apart....they're sober dammit! It worked, damned the price.
I've spent the last 20 years trying to figure out what I did that was so god awful that I needed to be sent away for 2 years. Trying to live up to some unrealistic idea of the perfect child taht my parents had and that was reinforced in that place. It absolutely destroyed my family in so many ways that I didn't even begin to understand until about 5 years ago. You dont understand taht this is one of the most important periods in a person's development. You start mucking around inside their head and you're playing with fire.
It's not just a decade or more ago. It's happening now, all the time. You've been here long enough to see the recent reports of deaths at the various camps.
Obtuse. ::noway::