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GregFL:

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On 2005-10-19 21:09:00, ChrisL wrote:

 it's a lie! So far from what I have experienced the succesful ladies in their 40's are busy with their careers or families or kids, etc...so far it has not left a lot of room for me, anyway Wah Wah Wah  :scared:  :skull:  :rofl:  :wink:
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Antigen:
It's about damned time, Greg! How long did you think you could string her along, anyway? LOL

Good luck to you both. I bet it'll work out just fine.
After all, who wouldn't prefer Middle Earth, unless they've been corrupted by a Ring of Power?

Jeff Elkins; Tolkien's Libertarian Vision
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shanlea:
I keep coming back to this site because it encapsulates so perfectly some of my issues from another TBS.  One problem I had was relating to people outside CEDU or ever feeling like I had deep friendships because we were so overexposed and bonded through highly intense, manipulative, contrived experiences that every other relationship seemed trite by comparison. I rarely thought anything was deep enough or "real" enough to merit my interest post-CEDU, but I never realized until now that my expectations were warped after that experience. How do you relate to "civilians" after you went through an emotional war of sorts with your peers in the program.  

When I married (to my now ex) six years ago, and I tried to tell him my experience, he looked at me like I had three heads... he had never heard of such a thing. He had the proverbial white picket fence life.  (The funny thing is, he is more fucked up than many, but you know what they say about normal people being people you just don't know very well.)

Anyway, dating for me always seemed kind of boring. I always wished I was the kind of girl who became easily infatuated (distracted) but most of the time, I would rather read a book then feign an interest in trite bullshit and regularity.  On the other hand, men who are more introspective and layered tend to be more complicated as well.

But Chris, it's not a lie. Most of my friends who dated the bad boys ended up marrying the nice guys and are happy to have come to their senses.

I've always been more a lightening strikes person, so I think all those dating rules are bullshit when you meet the right one at the right time. Why wait for two days if you don't want to? I've never had a serious relationship with someone where we both knew all those stupid rules don't qualify the minute we met. And I've never wasted my time if either one of us is half assed.

Anyway, there are many experiences in my life that in way, makes me feel a bit disconnected from people, but always yearning for something meaningful.  It's probably due to a confluence of factors, but I think one of them was attending CEDU.

GregFL:
Me too Shanlea.  I have posted about this before, and it seems a common trait that we adults that attended these various synanon style programs have.

That is, we seem to expect too much from other people, we tend to tell people things about us they haven't earned the right to know, and when people dissapoint us over  things that to others just seem so common, we dismiss our friendships with them or tell them off in a way that seems extreme to them.

I have noticed this trait in adult seed and straight attendees, and it is not a normal way to socialize with people. Once I identified this trait in myself, I have worked to remove it, but it is admittedly hard.

Antigen:
But it's not just Seedlings or just ppl who spent time in Synanon type groups. I've seen the same sort of thing in ppl who have an abusive, over controling family member or romantic interest.
The fact that a believer is happier than a skeptic is no more to the point than the fact that a drunken man is happier than a sober one.
--George Bernard Shaw, Irish-born English playwright
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