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Anonymous:
How did you tell you teenager or child about the Seed?  How did you explain it to your boyfriend/girlfriend before getting married or into a serious relationship?  If you explained it as a "drug rehab" they thought you were a heroin user, if you explained it as a cult or brainwashing they thought you were nuts.  How did you explain to people you loved, years later , who had no idea of what the seed was, how strange it was and try to give the best accurate description you could?  Or, did you just not tell about it at all?  What was their reaction if you did tell them?

Danny Girl:
Wow, that?s a lot of questions! I don?t have children, so I can?t answer from a mother?s perspective. I am however, a proud aunt and have talked to a couple of my nieces about this. For me, I don?t bring this up with children and teenagers unless there is an opening, a way that I can help them understand what?s happening in their own lives. When my niece was uncovering memories of past child abuse and having suicidal thoughts, I talked about my own similar experiences and how I worked through them. I told her about the rape, the hopelessness, all of it, in an effort to bring her hope that no matter what others do to us, we can survive, we can heal, we can be fulfilled.

As to partners? and for that matter, any friend or family member, I have waited until I knew them well enough to feel secure that they would not judge me based on my past experience. Their reactions: Always the same, anger, sadness, disbelief that something like The Seed could flourish, and support.

Hope that helps a bit.

Antigen:
I met my husband only a couple of years after the Program. I was still pretty twitchy; enough that I really had to explain why.
...it is worth discussing radical changes, not in the expectation that they will be adopted promptly but for two other reasons. One is to construct an ideal goal, so that incremental changes can be judged by whether they move the institutional structure toward or away from that ideal. The other reason is very different. It is so that if a crisis requiring or facilitating radical change does arise, alternatives will be available that have been carefully developed and fully explored."

Milton Friedman
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Robin Martin:
I married a Seed graduate, 3 yrs out of the program so there was never any 'splaining to do.  When our son reached his pre-teens and started to explore his rebellious side, we both spoke very candidly to him of our experiences. He's smart and fortunately understood.  Incidently, my ex really didn't need to be there, but doesn't harbor ill feelings either.

I was very fucked up and grateful to have come through it all alive! I've always been forthcoming with serious relationships, as I'm very proud of my accomplishments and want to share the experience w/ my friends and others. I like to surround myself w/ intelligent, strong, self-realized people so, it's always been a hoot to discuss my "boot camp days" at the Seed - it makes for great conversation, you know?

001010:
I wasn't in the Seed, but I was in it's sister-program, Straight, Inc. For myself, I just explained by giving examples. I'd frequently have to explain a "tick" I had, or what I call one of my episodes (PTSD) to my husband.  

Nightmares about people trying to ?get? me, or take away my life or my freedom, could be explained because of my program incarcerations. Eighteen years later, I still have these.

The best call is to know as much as you possibly can about what happened to you. Know that you were emotionally, physically, and psychologically manipulated and controlled against your will, and why. Methods, processes, intentions and outcomes ?   understand it all.  The more we know about what happened to us all, (and continues to happen to children in the US and abroad) the more we can explain our tragedy to our loved ones and the public in general, if need be. Knowledge is power.

My daughter knows fully at the age of 14 what happened to me. She knows enough to recognize it if she were to ever be in a similar circumstance against her will, God forbid.  My husband understands completely.

We were not in Drug rehabs. That was only their marketing name.

Come to the woods, for here is rest. There is no repose like that of the green deep woods. Here grow the wallflower and the violet. The squirrel will come and sit upon your knee, the logcock will wake you in the morning. Sleep in forgetfulness of all ill. Of all the upness accessible to mortals, there is no upness comparable to the mountains.
-- John Muir

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