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Worried Dad:

This sucks!  Especially that the caucasian kid got a lesser charge.

If your son gets a felony conviction, he can get it overturned/erased if he stays on the straight and narrow after this.

I share your realistically powerless view about what an individual can do to protect his/her offspring from the various vagaries of the court sytem.

I think it might mean a lot to your son that you are trying to fight for him, however lost this particular cause might be.  A year in jail would truly be a horrible sentence for a $37 tip jar, but, I must agree, it all other arguments fail, jail is better than WWASPS.  At least you'll get to see him, he can attend some classes if he chooses to.  It's up to him whether he picks up worse habits, you can't control that.

You have my sympathy and I also think you are brave for coming on here, smart for checking it out, and even smarter for absorbing the message despite wincing at the delivery.

Google tells me the video might not be available.

Anywhere else I can watch it, or could anyone send it to me?

Thanks, I have a loved one in TB

Hi everyone,

I just came across this in my Families Anonymous literature. Some of it really rang true for me and I thought I'd share.

An Open Letter to My Family:

I am a drug-abuser. I need help.

Don't solve my problems for me. This only makes me lose respect for you?and for myself.

Don't lecture, moralize, scold, blame, or argue whether I'm stoned or sober. It may make you feel better, but it only makes the situation worse.

Don't accept my promises. The nature of my illness prevents my keeping them, even though I mean them at the time. Promises are only my way of postponing pain. And don't keep switching agreements; if an agreement is made, stick to it.

Don't lose your temper with me. It will destroy you and any possibility of helping me.

Don't let your anxiety for me make you do what I should do for myself.

Don't believe everything I tell you. Often I don't even know the truth ? let alone tell it.

Don't cover up or try to spare me the consequences of my using. It may reduce the crisis, but it will make my illness worse.

Above all, don't run away from reality as I do. Drug dependence, my illness, gets worse as my using continues.

Start now to learn, to understand, to play for recovery. Find Families Anonymous, whose groups exist to help families in just your situation.

I need help ? from a doctor, a psychologist, a counselor, from some people in a self-help program who've recovered from a drug problem themselvers ? and from a Power great than myself.

Your User


I think keeping ourselves from protecting our kids from natural consequences is often the hardest of all.  We want to protect them, keep them from getting a record or from going to jail....sometimes it takes a hard reality check to wake people up and make them want to change.

got it, thanks.

I don't know where you are in Michigan but was trying to point you toward some resources.

I know how overwhelming this is for the whole family and the sense of urgency of getting Alex the right placement.

Speaking as one who has been there/done that both as a youth (I was the poster about outpatient working for the cocaine addiction) and as a parent, although it may be hard to accept, the only program that will truly work for Alex is one that he can buy into.  He needs to be able to work with and trust his therapist for any type of therapy to help.  His parents may be wonderful human beings, but there are also family issues that need to be addressed and resolved.


[ This Message was edited by: Sylvia on 2006-01-11 16:37 ]

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[ This Message was edited by: Sylvia on 2006-01-11 16:27 ]