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« Reply #240 on: December 14, 2005, 03:17:00 PM »
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« Reply #241 on: December 17, 2005, 05:32:00 PM »
I went to Desisto School MA 1988-1992.  I am hoping to find old friends that were there at the same time.  Did they still have sitting meetings, sheeting, or waking shifting when you were there?  How about Limit Structures where kids hold down other kids in the name of therapy?  Once I was chaired for 2 days and was forced to stay awake because I would not do my turn-ins.  I also remember the winter that Regular Boys had to sleep in the snow outside.  They were homeless for a week or more.  many did not have coats.
I also remember being forced to walk from the mansion in the middle of the night to a dorm across campus to wake shift a New Boy in the New Boys dorms.  We had to wake up in the middle of the night to do an hour or two.  That is ridiculous.  The punishments were so punitive. Handheld group for weeks on end.  I could go on and on.  Also obsessive compulsive cleaning everyday and Super Cleanups and End of the Year Clean up.  We cleaned day and night until the job was done.  I wish you could remember when you were there.  I am so sorry that you were at that terrible place.
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« Reply #242 on: December 17, 2005, 05:49:00 PM »
Michael was a strange man and I am shocked that so many cruel hurtful things could happen to innocent kids.  I was there Dec 1988-June 1992.  I always wondered if he was having sexual relations with the boys though no one ever talked about it.  He did play people against one another because he made all the rules and changed them everyday.  I was convinced that he had the therapists tell him what was discussed in thereapy which is why I would not speak in therapy.  Confidentiality was a joke.  There were a few times he told me to go to his house (I was a level 5) and report on dorm status and issues going on.  He was not fully dressed when I knocked on the door and I remember one time when my girl friend was trying to get his commitment he had us come back to his bedroom and he did not have any clothes on.  He was furious that she brought me along while discussing the commitment to go home.  I am thinking he wanted her for himself that evening and my being there ruined that intention.  He asked us to sit on the bed and it was really ackward.  I avoided him as much as possible.
Where you there during 1988-1992? or later?
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« Reply #243 on: December 17, 2005, 07:05:00 PM »
in reguards to desisto school i was there from 86 to about 90.i was just seein if there s anyone i know on here from then. it was a hellacious xperience and i am now 33 and i still have nightmares that i am stuck there!!!! screwed up huh?
but i also probably met some of the best friends ive ever made in my life there. but never got to say goodbye or have kept in touch. so if anybody out there happens to recall me drop me a line .my  names pete moshier and u can e mail me at wherethebluebirdsfly@hotmail.com
just wanted to see if anybody else is havin nightmares to hehe and bless all of u who sufferred desistos pain and who suffered its nightmarish ways
take care

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid
of the dark. The real tragedy of life is
when men are afraid of the light.
--Plato

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« Reply #244 on: December 17, 2005, 10:07:00 PM »
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On 2005-12-17 14:49:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Michael was a strange man and I am shocked that so many cruel hurtful things could happen to innocent kids.  I was there Dec 1988-June 1992.  I always wondered if he was having sexual relations with the boys though no one ever talked about it.  He did play people against one another because he made all the rules and changed them everyday.  I was convinced that he had the therapists tell him what was discussed in thereapy which is why I would not speak in therapy.  Confidentiality was a joke.  There were a few times he told me to go to his house (I was a level 5) and report on dorm status and issues going on.  He was not fully dressed when I knocked on the door and I remember one time when my girl friend was trying to get his commitment he had us come back to his bedroom and he did not have any clothes on.  He was furious that she brought me along while discussing the commitment to go home.  I am thinking he wanted her for himself that evening and my being there ruined that intention.  He asked us to sit on the bed and it was really ackward.  I avoided him as much as possible.

Where you there during 1988-1992? or later?"
Are you for real? This sounds like a bunch of horse shit
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« Reply #245 on: December 18, 2005, 10:53:00 PM »
A really fine school?  NOT!  It was and is in Florida under a different name a horrific school - abusive, and more.  I have heard that they should dig up the grounds there in Stockbridge MA for babies that might have been buried (that might be a bit far fectched) but the stories of abuse, and other terrible things from former students, parents, and former staff are true all true.  Micheal Desisto was a sick man not just physically but mentally as is his wife and McNear and followers.  SICK SICK SICK.  Thank God for the kids the state of MA and others stood up to them, too bad Florida doesn't have the balls to do the same.
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« Reply #246 on: December 22, 2005, 10:27:00 PM »
Does anyone know if Cold Spring Academy (Desisto's apparent reincarnation in FL) has a website?  I did a google search for them, but this is the best I could find (sounds just like the old Desisto propaganda to me so it's obviously coming from the same place):

http://www.strugglingteens.com/archives ... 411np.html

There is a web link on that page, but when you click on it, it goes to a dead site.  Is the school even still up and running?  Seems suspicious that they would let their website go down since that is such a huge means of recruiting students these days.  Just curious if this is a sign things are starting to flounder or if the Cold Spring name has already drawn too much attention that they have tried to re-open as something else, or maybe totally moved the remaining kids to Mexico?

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« Reply #247 on: December 26, 2005, 04:43:00 PM »
If the school was such a great place why are there so many people reporting abuse and trauma?  I suppose it is possible that a few people benefitted from attending and that others suffered.  If you say it is a fine school then I believe that you feel that way.  All I know is that I endured sitting meetings some lasting over a month.
Kids were held down by other kids and punched or psychologically torchured.  Kids held down by other kids and clothes ripped off of them.  That was called sheeting where the victim was given a sheet to wear.  Chaired for days and even kept awake for days if you did not do turn ins.  The boys dorm was kicked out in the middle of winter.  Many did not have coats.  Staff members sexually abusing kids and I know that happened you can read about it in the papers.
I remember my regular girls dorm being farmed and grouped and told to eat in the bathroom then the foyer of the dorm.  I believe that breaks the law concerning health codes.  Yes I remember Michael's invitations to his house and I tried to avoid them.  Yes he was not always dressed.  I am not the only one to report this type of thing or worse.
I am really curious.  When did you attend this school?  Perhaps Michael was a different person in a different era.  Students from my generation feel traumatized and still have nightmares.
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« Reply #248 on: December 29, 2005, 08:41:00 AM »
He liked boys
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« Reply #249 on: January 08, 2006, 03:31:00 AM »
i went to desisto for a couple of years in the eighties,somewhere between 84/88.my case seemed simple enough i just didnt like school.so my parents figured i would go to desisto for as long as it took to graduate.i needed credits for a few classes that i blew off in public school.im not trying to paint myself as a saint,by any means.but when i got there it was a total shock.id been to a few other boarding schools and never was exposed to the insanity that i saw and heard.on my first day,upon meeting my roommate he told me that the person that lived with him before,that slept in my bed had recently hung himself in my closet.my first thought "yeah right whatever",i was used to being sort of hazed as a new guy.he left the room and went wherever idiots go,i stayed and was trying chill with my walkman listening to depeche mode.all of a sudden i sense chaos and see smoke someone runs in my room say "get out fire".so i go outside to see the staff hauling the idiot roomate off to the mental hospital.i think to myself"damn when does the entertainment start?"in reality the place wasnt that horrible except for the people that really  should have been somewhere else more appropriate.the food was killer when i was there,im surprised no-one has mentioned that.i gained like 30 poubnds the first week.my proudest moment was when michael told my mom that i was "the most verbally abusive person he had ever met".why i ran away down to seaside heights after 2 years of trying to conform?they meaning michael and his messenger tell me that if i dont admit that i was gay that i would not be able to progress in the program.they knocked me down to level 1 when i was due to be level 3 and sent me to the farm.someone found out that was gonna bolt so they locked me a room with boarded windows.this bad-ass chick named vanessa who i was supposed to run with went to the south gate,when i wasnt there she came to the farm.i was like go on with out me.she was like fuck no,and proceeded literally tear the boards off the windows.now the problem was that i had no clothes just underware,so we went to the level 4 dorm"the mansion"and took there shit.bye bye hell hole!hello sandy beaches!to sum it up i wouldnt have been there if my parents werent self centered assholes who had nothing better to do than travel the world without thier son.
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« Reply #250 on: March 08, 2006, 10:35:00 PM »
i was there in the mid 80,s...old schooler...it sucked!!!we snuck out of our dorms almost every nite..lots of sex...rode the horses at nite...and we would alwaya raid the kitchen, was sent to the farm much, was in a riot with about 20 other kids and we all left the property.the scool called our parents and had us removed, after several months i was escorted back to do more time..micheal was always begging for money and lectured at length on this subject.i learned nothing from that place. did make great friends there, and i miss them. to anyone who ever did time at desisto in howey in the hills, florida one thing is for sure...we are way stronger than the average joe!!!svosney@yahoo.com
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« Reply #251 on: March 09, 2006, 12:42:00 AM »
hey.. saw your message on the forum. who are you? i did time at desisto around the time you did. i remember sneaking out alot. was on the farm alot. lots of friends on heavy meds. my name is shannon. email me at svosney@yahoo.com sorry you had to go through hellyears at desisto.
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« Reply #252 on: March 09, 2006, 03:59:00 PM »
hey saw your message .. i remember the sunday clean-ups,serving food in the dining room, the farm, group therapy,etc... my name is shannon ward. email is svosney@yahoo.com.
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« Reply #253 on: March 12, 2006, 02:06:00 PM »
i read that Desisto was forced to close after a student swallowed razer blades and wasnt taken to the hospital for quite a while.

People report different experiences becasue their experiences were different. It was a "lord of the flies" experience. The strong emotionally integrated kids ganged up on the weaker kids. The people who were strong only suffered the physical deprivations which were tough but not genuinely terrible. While the kids who were marked for bullying lived in a horror land where they would clean all day and then get screamed at by about 19 kids their age about what discusting horrible worthless people they were.

I figured out the key to this "diverging experience" issue by reading the post of one of my contemporaries Heather. She came to my house with 1 other girl and 5 other men and dragged me into a van. She was the biggest bully there. I remember her ordering around the younger girls (she looked about 21) with such gusto. She "silenced" another girl and then would announce she was kidding the girl would speak and Heather would yell at her and "silence" her again. SHe really got off on confronting people. Anyway, she looks back at this time fondly because like a nazi who enjoyed ordering around jews she enjoyed ordering around and having complete poewer over other kids. Power is something people are really attracted to and some people really relish it when they get it.
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« Reply #254 on: March 12, 2006, 04:31:00 PM »
hey.. iwas ther in the 80s too! ive tried to go to the msn web on desisto... i guess they wont let in. im not worried about my name being seen here. its shannon ward.. do you know me? i remember a few nameslike...matt, victor v., katie from n.y., robin, wendy, we ran together and went to n.c., also albert c.form tex. anyway if you want to talk my email is svosney@yahoo.com i went to desisto 2x in the 80s...was kicked out the 1st time cuz i was in a riot that walked off the farm..also remember jeff with blonde hair, curly...the 2nd time i went ther a whole new group of peeps were there remember once a wk. massages you could sign up for? lots of sex there...
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