Opie,
I never said charachter flaws (though AA does say "defects of charachter"), I never said "sin". I never said anything like that. I said that people choose to put what they want in their bodies. They shouldn't be condemned for those choices any more than they are absolved for their actions under the influence of substances.
People get physically addicted to the chemicals they are putting in their bodies. In the beginning it might be a choice, but after a while it is no longer a choice. If you think depression is bad, try withdrawing from opiates and it's derivatives. Try withdrawing from a serious alcohol addiction, that can kill you, if not done with the help of medical professionals. Not everybody has health insurance, or can afford to go to a medical rehab. That's where AA comes in. All it is, is a meeting place for like minded people. The only thing they have in common, is they want to stop using alcohol or drugs. People who have been through it want to help others do it too. I mean, it's not that complicated. I don't need to read books and studies to know what's going on. I've been through it all myself and form my opinions based on that.
By saying addicts and alcoholics are choosing to be that way is the same thing as saying people choose the way they feel. You are choosing to be depressed. You are choosing to be anxious. You are choosing to have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Nobody would ever choose to be an alcoholic or an addict. It can happen to anyone. I know that makes some people feel uncomfortable. They want to think they are fully in control. Well, if you abstain from additive drugs altogether you might avoid it. But it's clear, out of the majority of people who can drink and use without being addicted, a certain portion will become addicted. That's a fact.
Quit trying to change the subject to psychiatry since you don't' want to discuss AA's dismal rate of failure.
If anything, the failure rate proves the biological disease model of addiction. Some people seem to have more problems than others with alcohol and drugs. Consider yourself lucky, you are in the large majority who are able to handle drugs and alcohol responsibly. It doesn't give you the right, however, to tell those who do have a problem with it how they should handle themselves. By telling them it's a choice, you are telling them they are a stupid person, because they make bad choices every day. It's a horrible way of dealing with addiction. The person who explained why AA came about in the first place described it best, how alcoholics were marginalized and shamed in the past. You want to return to that old way, I think that's a mistake.
Did the place I was in employ therapy? No. Lots of ex-con junkies with "real world experience", yes, but no therapists. They called it therapy, yes, but it wasn't therapy.
Just like AA in programs, is not the AA a free person would see. Why don't you hold therapy accountable for the program version of therapy? This is something I do not understand.
I have been to a shrink. I used to talk to one fairly regularly on a weekly basis until earlier this year when I tired of it. Did he diagnose me with anything? No. Not at all.
In AA, on the other hand, or in a program, Denial, as the above guest notes is a symptom of the "disease". So basically if you accept you're an alcholic, you're an alcoholic and if you deny it, that's further evidence you're an alcoholic. LOL. It's witch dunking all over again. If the woman drowns, she wasn't a witch. If she lives, she's a witch, so burn her. Either way, if you get accused of being a witch, you're fucked. It would be comical if the groupers didn't truly believe the shit they were shoveling.
I think it's natural for people to assume people in an AA meeting are alcoholics. If you aren't an alcoholic or addict, then walk out of the AA meeting. If it makes you uncomfortable in any way, leave. If you want to, try going to another meeting. Or don't, nobody else will try to stop you. I've never seen bars on the windows of AA meetings. I've never seen anyone restrained in an AA meeting. I've never seen thugs standing at the door watching guard. I've never seen people forced to share in an AA meeting. I've never anything remotely program like in an AA meeting, as a matter of fact. This is why when you claim AA and programs are the same, I shake my head in confusion. I wish I was in a program in some way similar to AA, what an easy time that would of been. Free coffee and donuts, cigarettes, nice people, free will to go as I please, optional group sharing. Please, sign me up for that program.
Sure some of that exists in psychiatry as well. Is our society over-medicated? For sure it is. Does psychiatric medicine also help some? Yup, it does, but that's besides the point.
This is also true of AA. You just can't see that for some reason. Anyone who suggests this same fact as you just did in relation to AA, is uneducated, brainwashed sheep, and need to read a chapter of a book and studies to enlighten them. Scientologists will quote studies about how dismal the rate of success is with medication, and ask you to read their literature. I wish you could see how similar you sound to them, it's scary almost. Why can't you acknowledge that AA helps some people, usually the people who need it most?
I am against forced drugging just as much as I am against forced treatment of any kind. I believe a person owns his own body and NOBODY has a right to infringe on that sovereignty, no matter how well meaning.
Nobody has ever been forced to attend AA in the history of the organization. If you are talking about the slim portion of attendees who are court ordered, well that is also an option. They are not dragged into a meeting in handcuffs and forced to sit there. If that were true, then yes I would say it was program like. People are offered this as an alternative to other forms of punishment. Take it up with the justice system if you don't like their way of doing business. It has nothing to do with AA. AA did not lobby the criminal justice system to force people to attend, they do not get paid by how many people attend.
Do I take Prozac? Yes. It's my personal choice. So what. Do I put faith in it? Not necessarily at all. If I could take back the clock I would have probably never gone on it at all. Now I am in a situation where if I go off it I have severe withdraws (been on since 13).
Going to AA is a personal choice. Going to meetings might help people, just like some people think medication helps them. It's no different. If you think medication helps you that's great. Imagine if I was some scientologist who quoted you my literature, and suggested you are ignorant to what you are doing to yourself, and said how sad it is that a survivor would use psychiatry since programs use it (remember kids are abused in psychiatric hospitals too). I would sound like an arrogant extremist, unwilling to even acknowledge that some people might, in fact, be helped by taking medication. I am able to acknowledge that the abusive, coercive psychiatry that goes on in some hospitals is not the same as voluntary, individualized treatment as a free person. Why cannot you acknowledge the same about AA?
All that being said, Psychiatry and Psychology is based on science. AA is not and it does not work. It has been proven not to work by it's own supporters (see the Vaillant study at Harvard). In fact, it causes more harm than no treatment at all (binge increasing). If I know somebody who has a drinking / drug problem who asks for help I tell them to choose anything but AA (and why). Statistically, they're better off on their own. If they need support, "suffering in the dark" is not necessary.
Do you really believe that AA helps no people at all, and actually makes 100% of it's attendees addiction's worse? If you do believe that, then go to a few AA meetings and you can see with your own eyes that is not true. I don't need to read studies, I've been to many meetings over many years, and know many people who have stayed sober because of it. I'm sure it doesn't work for everyone. They can leave, and search for an alternative that will help them.
There are many other support groups, and therapists who deal with addictions (who do not subscribe to AA's disease concept). The AA concept that "only an X knows an X" is just to sucker more people into meetings. Often talking to a friend, finding new activities, etc, can help to break existing habits (not diseases).
If those meetings worked so well, why is AA so much more popular? People are free to choose what type of support they want. Bad mouthing one option, and propping up another is not the business I am in. I think people are intelligent enough for themselves to figure it out. If they don't like it, they can leave after 30 seconds. I don't see what the big deal is. Not everybody can afford to go to therapists.
If Alcholism were truly an incurable progressive disease as AA holds, people would not recovery without it, yet that happens every day.
Good for them. If they want they don't have to attend AA meetings. It's a free choice. They can go to the AA alternatives you describe. The whole point is to help people get sober. Some people are tempted for the rest of their lives to pick up the bottle when times are tough, so they feel the need to stay in recovery. I would say it's more like going into remission, than a cure, since it's always possible to relapse and become fully addicted again. People that know they have the potential to become addicted again want to try and avoid it, I don't see what's wrong with that. People relapse, get worse and sometimes die of alcoholism or drug overdose. I don't see the point of opposing a self help group made of people who want to avoid this result. What's the point of opposing it?
AA is full of lies, mistruths, and fundamentist assertions of having the "only way", "inspired by god", etc... As penn and teller said (about AA too), it's BULLSHIT.
Well if a couple of magicians say something, it's got to be true then. Have you read the AA and NA big books? All it is, is stories by people who were addicted to alcohol and drugs and what helped them recover. What is so offensive about the concept of God? They don't even call it God, they call it a Higher Power. I think that term is inclusive, and the meetings I've been to always make sure to add "and those who don't believe in a God". It's not a religious organization. It has one purpose, to help people get sober and stay sober.
Here. Read a book by stanton peele.
Diseasing of America - How We Allowed Recovery Zealots and the Treatment Industry to Convince Us We Are Out of Control
Read that chapter. It might enlighten your viewpoint on this a little.
I'm not going to read this, I have no reason to.
My viewpoints are very simple actually. I think AA helps some people get sober and stay sober. I also think that AA is nothing like abusive programs. I think by comparing the two, it minimizes what really goes inside of abusive programs, to an offensive degree. That's it, I don't hold a very complicated set of beliefs here. I think it's common sense, based on what I've seen. Blurring the lines between the coercion and abuse inside of programs, with organizations such as AA, is dishonest, and I cannot take part in it. Nothing I have ever experienced in the "free world" compares to what goes on inside of a program. Nothing.