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Offline Anonymous

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« Reply #105 on: August 31, 2007, 01:10:30 PM »
Parent:  You've taught her your values;  if she's smart, she's picked up some just by living w/you.  Now you freak when she displays independence.  Makes some bad choices.   and Every decision you  make is dead-on, best-for-all-concerned.  

Always?  

:nworthy:    

Then teach her:  ALWAYS...
...tell the truth.
...keep your word.
...treat everyone the way you want to be treated.
...if it isn't yours, don't touch it.
These are part of parenting:  what have you been doing? :flame:  

Now you're looking for outside help:  Here!  You do it for me :exclaim: = shattered trust.  You can't repair that.*

I was not abused or mistreated in any way.  NO rotten food, threats, hours of being come-down-on.  Which was good in a way:  I put on a happy-face :wave: and spent all my time in my head wondering howhy my parents could possibly have stopped loving me.  Spent 36 years trying to 'fix' that.*

...don't choose this.  Do not let that child out of your home.  If this is okay w/you now, why not just adopt her out when she was born?
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« Reply #106 on: August 31, 2007, 01:22:53 PM »
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Cover, there is nothing wrong with this kid. From the mums own admission!!! The mom needs to work on here own fears and leave her daughter alone and trust me if Aspen gets a hold to this lady they will have her convinced that the kid needs the programing we all know and love.

Cover thanks for your response and I never said there was nothing wrong lying , stealing, cutting , disrespect, yes all of those things aren't normal behavior and we are in family therapy too.

I have checked in to aspen family there is nothing here in the US.  I am not doing anything with her at the moment. She has lost lots of priveleges due to not following the family contract and it will remain that way until things change with her that is the only thing happening now
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Cover, this lady is nuts!!

Dude you sound like a wwasps parent. You sent her to a dangerous program that had three deaths in 04/05, you spew AA bs about her possible becoming an Alcoholic because you and hubby were one, come her looking for Residential placement because she is disrespectful and now have her on a contract ala wwasps?!?!

My God I pray this kid turns 18 soon, or gets wise and runs the fuck away... Far far away cause you, mom, are dangerous.
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i]Do something real, however, small. And don\'t-- don\'t diss the political things, but understand their limitations - Grace Lee Boggs[/i]
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« Reply #107 on: August 31, 2007, 01:24:30 PM »
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Cover thanks for your response and I never said there was nothing wrong lying , stealing, cutting , disrespect, yes all of those things aren't normal behavior and we are in family therapy too.

Those are fairly normal teen behaviors, with the possible exception of the cutting.  But DAMN woman!!  I might be cutting too if I had to try and develop a personality of my own under the extreme constriction and your vehemence in trying to make her conform to what YOU want her to be.  She's a growing woman with a developing mind of her own.  Why are you trying to stunt that?  She sounds like a pretty typical teen with pretty typical reactions to being stifled.


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I have checked in to aspen family there is nothing here in the US.  I am not doing anything with her at the moment. She has lost lots of priveleges due to not following the family contract and it will remain that way until things change with her that is the only thing happening now



Lose the family contract and just talk to your kid.  You can't "run" a family like it's a business.

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The more boring a child is, the more the parents, when showing off the child, receive adulation for being good parents-- because they have a tame child-creature in their house.  ~~  Frank Zappa

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« Reply #108 on: August 31, 2007, 01:26:11 PM »
ot: Why are my words so big?
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i]Do something real, however, small. And don\'t-- don\'t diss the political things, but understand their limitations - Grace Lee Boggs[/i]
I do see the present and the future of our children as very dark. But I trust the people\'s capacity for reflection, rage, and rebellion - Oscar Olivera

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Offline Anne Bonney

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« Reply #109 on: August 31, 2007, 01:35:10 PM »
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ot: Why are my words so big?



Hit the 'edit' button and highlight your text  Then choose "normal" in the font size.  Don't know how it happened but that'll fix it.




I thought you did that for emphasis.  It was needed.
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AA is a cult http://www.orange-papers.org/orange-cult.html

The more boring a child is, the more the parents, when showing off the child, receive adulation for being good parents-- because they have a tame child-creature in their house.  ~~  Frank Zappa

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« Reply #110 on: August 31, 2007, 01:36:07 PM »
[we had had a family contract for months  created with her therapist. If I listened to  you people i would take her out of therapy and let her do whatever she wants. Then add this in too. Why not give her a cell phone and let her stay out all night too and give her unlimited money. Let her run wild if i did things according to some of your suggestions. I am sooooooo in the wroong place
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« Reply #111 on: August 31, 2007, 01:41:37 PM »
For what you claim is her problems she don't need therapy just space. Ever heard of over treating someone? It drives people crazy.
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I do see the present and the future of our children as very dark. But I trust the people\'s capacity for reflection, rage, and rebellion - Oscar Olivera

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« Reply #112 on: August 31, 2007, 01:42:36 PM »
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[we had had a family contract for months  created with her therapist. If I listened to  you people i would take her out of therapy and let her do whatever she wants. Then add this in too. Why not give her a cell phone and let her stay out all night too and give her unlimited money. Let her run wild if i did things according to some of your suggestions. I am sooooooo in the wroong place



I was sent to Straight on the recommendation of a 'therapist', so just because someone has some letters after his name doesn't make him or her qualified to raise YOUR child.  That's YOUR job.  Quit trying to make her a little you.  

I have two grown children.  The oldest gave me nightmares and fits for 5 years or more.  I DO understand what it's like to be a scared parent.  YOU, however, at least from what you've posted here, do not.  She's reacting your your extreme control.  Of course I'm not suggesting she have no rules or consequences, but they have to make sense and fit the crime.  Stealing, lying, manipulating, being moody, sullen, depressed, change of friends, anger and a host of others are all NORMAL PARTS OF GROWING UP.  Stop stifling this child!!!!
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traight, St. Pete, early 80s
AA is a cult http://www.orange-papers.org/orange-cult.html

The more boring a child is, the more the parents, when showing off the child, receive adulation for being good parents-- because they have a tame child-creature in their house.  ~~  Frank Zappa

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« Reply #113 on: August 31, 2007, 01:44:11 PM »
An in addition to what Anne posted, you don't send someone away for these things.
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I do see the present and the future of our children as very dark. But I trust the people\'s capacity for reflection, rage, and rebellion - Oscar Olivera

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« Reply #114 on: August 31, 2007, 02:12:14 PM »
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some of you members of very sick and need some serious help. Sick Sick People



Welcome to the dark side, for you too are a member now.


 :rofl:




Now will someone please come up with a good 'member' joke?  You guys are slacking.
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traight, St. Pete, early 80s
AA is a cult http://www.orange-papers.org/orange-cult.html

The more boring a child is, the more the parents, when showing off the child, receive adulation for being good parents-- because they have a tame child-creature in their house.  ~~  Frank Zappa

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« Reply #115 on: August 31, 2007, 02:19:17 PM »
We need our members spanked regularly

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I do see the present and the future of our children as very dark. But I trust the people\'s capacity for reflection, rage, and rebellion - Oscar Olivera

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« Reply #116 on: August 31, 2007, 02:20:58 PM »
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She's scared and with good reason considering what shes been led to believe

hows about trying to encoutrage this parent to relax and find out who her daughter really is rather than run her off the bioard into the arms of some ed con who'll be seeing $$ signs

Who said Edcons aren't on this board right now?  :rofl:

BTW, check your spelling, and stop posting drunk. Go straddle someone's cock and sweat it all out of your system or something, sheesh.

BTW didnt you have it in with your sons over porn once? Why not go lend him a hand?  8-)
Get your facts right or STFU....I did tell the board about my sons having porn once, but if you go back and read the post I said I wasn't worried, I found it to be NORMAL growing up stuff

As for the rest of my post, I was trying to say what Hanzomon said, she just needs to relax and realise this is normal child/teen behaviour, they do this shit & come out the other side, usually cringing they've been so daft.

If you can't read what i post then I suggest you skip it, however, I believe you could read it, spelling mistakes included, because you pointed it out, moron

Have a good day  :D
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« Reply #117 on: August 31, 2007, 02:21:33 PM »
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She's scared and with good reason considering what shes been led to believe

hows about trying to encoutrage this parent to relax and find out who her daughter really is rather than run her off the bioard into the arms of some ed con who'll be seeing $$ signs

Who said Edcons aren't on this board right now?  :rofl:

BTW, check your spelling, and stop posting drunk. Go straddle someone's cock and sweat it all out of your system or something, sheesh.

BTW didnt you have it in with your sons over porn once? Why not go lend him a hand?  8-)
Get your facts right or STFU....I did tell the board about my sons having porn once, but if you go back and read the post I said I wasn't worried, I found it to be NORMAL growing up stuff

As for the rest of my post, I was trying to say what Hanzomon said, she just needs to relax and realise this is normal child/teen behaviour, they do this shit & come out the other side, usually cringing they've been so daft.

If you can't read what i post then I suggest you skip it, however, I believe you could read it, spelling mistakes included, because you pointed it out, moron

Have a good day  :D
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« Reply #118 on: August 31, 2007, 07:19:12 PM »
Everyone who's ever been to college has a story about a repressed girl from a very religious family who went wild after she got out on her own.

Lighten up a llittle bit and maybe she won't become one of those girls after she moves out.
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« Reply #119 on: August 31, 2007, 09:10:22 PM »
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