how do you know if you are assigning to much importance to certain times and incidents in your life.
Good question. I don't know. Like I stated before, I'm obsessive. CEDU is cyclic with me. It goes away for a while, and then it comes back for a while. When it comes back, I have to think about it, and I think about it a lot. Then I get tired and it goes away again.
How does your mind go about picking the things that you remember, because out of all the shit that goes on day to day, we only remember a very small portion it seems like.
Fuck, I can barely remember what I did yesterday. I don't have much of a choice in that. I also have schizoid tendencies, so I will forget people and faces who may have played an important role in my life at one point. I don't think you can choose what to remember, but when a memory is repressed, it's still there, not forgotten. Just latent. I don't really know the process that happens behind that, though.
If two people can have the same experience and one consider it good and one consider it bad, does that make one of them deficient in some way?
I don't know. But it does make for some interesting arguments. I'm not sure deficient would be the operative term, here, if there was indeed an imbalance in functionality or intelligence. The diplomatic side of me says that it's important not to invalidate someone else's experience, even if you think their perception is completely fucked up. Let me put it this way, if someone viewed it as a good experience, fine. But if they then decide to form their own school, work as a youth counselor, send their own kid to a TBS, or pimp TBSes to other parents, then I get a little more brutal in my opinion of them. It's fine if you want to view your experience positively, it's another thing entirely if you want to subject someone else to it.
I am just wondering if it even exists
No. It's a bunch of crap. It's used to convince people to consume and spend in search of it.