Is it better just to forget?

[exhausted]

I think everyone has a different perception of happiness because we are all individuals

While I was in India, I found the poorer people were, the happier they were, especially the children, you give them a tennis ball and you'd think you'd given them the crown jewels! They want for nothing because they have nothing

A tennis ball would not make me happy

I did learn a long time ago however, that removing all negatives from your life is a good place to start, this can be people, places etc, some of them are hard to let go - especially if they are relatives or partners, I also learnt that behind every neative is a positive, positive thinking is a fantastic way of dealing with negatives, for every bad thing that happens, there is a positive that comes out of it, if you hadn't lost that job, you wouldn't have moved to that other town and met the love of your life and so on, I believe everything has a reason to lead you down particular paths, thinking this way is hard, especially when the odds seem constantly stacked against you, but if you look closely enough, you will find a positive in absolutely everything.....try it.

mental packaging is good too - i was taught how to place bad thoughts and feelings into a box, wrap them up securely and throw them away, it does help, sort of cleaning out your closet mentally ... saying this I am of the mindset that certain bad memories are healthy to hang onto, they remind you of who you are and why you don't act in certain ways, again, another positive

i hope some of this at least, made some sense

[try another castle]

A tennis ball would not make me happy

****scratches that off the list of possible birthday presents for exhausted****

You're a very tough woman to please, you know that?  :wink:

How about a shuttlecock? Do you have one of those? They're floaty. wheeee. ::bigsmilebounce::


Sorry to respond to your very thoughtful and serious post with cracks about sporting equipment, but I'm an idiot.  :silly:

In all seriousness, I wish my mom could have taken some lessons from you. Don't get me wrong, I love her, but she is quite the typical overprotective jewish mother. "It's 70 degrees out! Put on a coat, you'll get pneumonia!"

[exhausted]

Hey it's my 40th next month, I at least deserve a racket with that shuttlecock  :lol:

But let's not get off topic, happiness finding is important stuff

[hanzomon4]

try another castle - Thanks, I couldn't figure out why charly was being called karen or why "Karen" was treated like the embodiment of evil.  Well she seemed open minded to me......

exhausted, Your post made perfect sense and I'm somewhat of a pessimist

[exhausted]

exhausted, Your post made perfect sense and I'm somewhat of a pessimist

I used to be, my thinking was "expect the worst then it won't be a shock and if something good happens, it'll be a bonus"

I was so unhappy thinking that way all the time, it drove people away because I was so depressive, doom & gloom

Then I started to realise everything had it's reason - i won't say I'm the happiest bunny alive, but I'm certainly happier for the way I think - and positivity realy does attract positive things and people

[try another castle]

I used to be, my thinking was "expect the worst then it won't be a shock and if something good happens, it'll be a bonus"

OMFG! Are you sure you aren't Jewish???

That's so scary, I've been bandying about that line forever. "Expect the worst, that way you're never disappointed." That, and "It could be worse. (We could be in Passaic.)"

[exhausted]

Nope Irish Catholic

It's just something I've learnt for myself over the years - get rid of that thinking, do yourself a favour, it's not healthy

As for it could be worse, i kind of use that logic entwined with my way of thinking, stupid things like I hate my legs, theyre too fat, then I think, hang on, there's a neighbours child up the road who had his leg amputated through infantile menengitis, he'd love to have my legs - so yes it could be worse, let's get some pespective here

[Anonymous]

Nope Irish Catholic

A booze hound & hypocrite.  ::fuckoff::

[Anonymous]

Nope Irish Catholic

A booze hound & hypocrite.  ::fuckoff::

 :rofl:  :rofl:  ::bwahaha::  ::puke::

[try another castle]

Nope Irish Catholic

Same thing.

Why do you think your people and my people intermarry so much?


I'm better at that. Instead of expecting the worst, I try to be realistic and rational. i.e. I have no idea how this will turn out, because it hasn't happened yet, but I hope it turns out well. But I do try to keep myself from getting my hopes up. I just try to leave it open.

(But now I've started learning how.)
I leave it open.

Okay, so I like Kate Bush.

[try another castle]

Nope Irish Catholic

A booze hound & hypocrite.  ::fuckoff::

:rofl:  :rofl:  ::bwahaha::  ::puke::

Is responding to yourself the new black?

[Anonymous]

Eh?

[try another castle]

over your head?

not surprised.

mental note to self:  ::troll::

[Anonymous]

over your head?

not surprised.

mental note to self:  ::troll::

You were saying that I was replying to my own post (I wasn't.) Also, wth is this "new black" stuff? Speak English!  :rofl:

[try another castle]

over your head?

not surprised.

mental note to self:  ::troll::

You were saying that I was replying to my own post (I wasn't.) Also, wth is this "new black" stuff? Speak English!  :rofl:

Not my fault if you're not up to date on tired old catchphrases that have been around for the past five years. There's a wikipedia. Use it.