Are you kidding me??
Manipulate is still a real word, and a real thing that kids do.
Before you jump on me thinking I'm pro-programs, I'm not. Check the HLA thread and see my posts there.
HOWEVER. When a child sits there and tells a parent to just give up on them, quit fucking with their life and let them make their own choices, and its the same child whose making the CHOICE to run away, slice up their arms and be in a relationship with an EXTREMELY physically abusive boyfriend, dont you think that MAYBE their decision making abilities should be taken away?? Until they have the self respect and a sense of worth to do the right things by their own life? You sit there and ask me if I was there against my will. Absolutely. In a heart beat I would have walked right out of those places and walked right back into the EXTREMELY dangerous situations in which I put myself.
Now, I certainly believe that if all this bullshit can be avoided and that a parent can reach their own solution by their child, then the child needs to be the one to choose to make different decisions in their own life. That is and was the only way that my life changed, when I made the simple decision that I was worth more than the fucking disaster I'd turned my life into. And that happened many years after I left these programs, and involved no kind of therapy, meds, or behavior mods or whatever you call it. But. In the years I was institutionalized, at least I can say I wasn't hurting myself like I did at home.
So where do you draw the line? When is a child hurting themselves so badly that they in turn should have their rights (the right to hurt themselves) taken away?