If then you agree that both ways are wrong then why would you send your daughter to ASR ? At least the public school kid got to go home and get away from the madness!
Because she needed the therapeutic component that was absent at other schools. There is no perfect solution except maybe home schooling, which may come close.
Behavior Mod is present where ever we go, it starts at birth and when your mother smiles at you (positive reinforcement) when you take your first steps and continues on from there.