On 2006-01-10 15:35:00, Anonymous wrote:
"You cannot tell me these aren't facts.
I guess you are right.
We must have seen him at two differnt points in his life. I saw and got to know a different person than you did. Maybe he grew since you saw him last maybe we each saw a different side to the same person.
But as far as ASR is concerned he has moved on and it is in the past."
OK, now this is some responsible feedback.
Maybe he did grow since last I saw him. Hell, anything's possible.
My point was that there are many people, spanning decades, that knew someone different from whom you knew. They knew an awful, abusive drunk that had no business working with kids and would not have had that opportunity to abuse were it not for the negligence of CEDU and HLA (I'll take your word on ASR - that he behaved well there) in their hiring of a man with no credentials or education to serve in a therpeutic capacity.
It irritates me greatly sometimes when folks who have had another experience invalidate the experiences of others because it is different from theirs. I think it was unfair and irresponsible of you to insinuate that these poor kids were lying just because you didn't see it happen.
In what capacity did you know him? As a parent of an ASR client? Or did you know him personally outside of the program?
When you interact with someone within the context of your dealing with a program, sometimes what you get is the personality they have developed to deflect criticism or imbue a sense of ease in the parent. Oftentimes this is a far disparate reality from who they are behind closed doors, alone, with children. I saw this with Rudy regularly. He was a perfect gentlemen for the parents and an abusive animal when alone with the kids.