So his relatives provided him with cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol? and let him basically do whatever he wanted? And now you're surprised that he hasn't learned to respect authority? Were the hell were his parents back then?...
again, a little literacy can go a long way.
had you actually listened before opening you mouth you would have read that this incedent where the older cosine made the mistake of giving him the benefeit of the doubt happened once, very recently, and will never happen again.
only after he needed to be removed from his house for ASSAULTING HIS PARENTS did that take place, and by that time alternative schooling was pretty much on the horizon. that was the straw that made me see that this kid would not change no matter what.
if the kid got b's and c's i would tell his parents "a lot of kids smoke pot every day, back off him a bit if he continues to do ok in the rest of life" but i could not find one example in the rest of his life to indicate he was "OK"
Programs are nothing like real life. In real life, there are consequences. But they are *real life* consequences. Being considered a dumb loser by everybody is a consequence. Failing school is a consequence.
those arent consequences, those are his goals, thats what he aims to do because in his messed up mind people respect him more the less he does.
It may take Frankie some time to figure these consequences out, but that doesn't make them non-existant.
your right, he will one day realize what an idiot he was, and he will stioll be an emotional midget who threw away the last best opportunities he had in life. for years he will be working to catch up, and he will probably never achieve what he could have had he learned to persevere while young.
The consequences given in programs often have nothing to do with the child "offense". Therefor, they fail to teach the child anything that can be applied to his/her situation. For example: Frankie doesn't study, and fails some classes. In real life, this could mean having to repeat the grade.
wrong again. in real life his parents stuck him n a private school to get him away from the last group of degenerates only to discover there are degenerates everywhere. in real life this same private school pushes him along because they will do anything to keep getting the parents money, you dont get left back in a private school and continue at that school. They'd stick him in summer school and rubber stamp a passing grade as they teach to the lowest common denominator, and that is exaclty where he was when he started beating up mom and dad. but of course hes just a kid who deserves yet another 2nd chance right?
In a program, he would have to write a "self correction" essay.
you mean for the first time in his life hes gonna wright an essay that wasnt copied and pasted from the internet?
Consequences like that, which have nothing to do with the "offense" and which do not stem directly from it, are useless. The child can't really learn anything from them other than "don't get caught" and "do the minimum to get by".
doing the minimum to get by is probably the most essestial skill an underachiever can learn. everyone knows high school is just a way to keep kids busy until space clears in the work force (and these days so is college). the only hard part is "turning it on" when it really does matter. even in real life, sometimes you gotta do the minimum (come to a full stop at a stop sign even when you clearly see no cars are comming) so that you can roll with society