i am not saying that kind of behavior doesn't go on among male program staff i'm just saying it hasn't been reported as much in PV
i have found in life that the group of people involved make a lot of difference,
staff on the guys side sound like total bastards and its still unholy hell in male survivors accounts but on the girls sides they seem like total abusive nuts.
One kid does talk about being pulled out of his four minute shower on the boys side and that sure as hell is not very appropriate.
maybe the male staff is just lazier, i know i could not be bothered to restrain some one unless i absolutely had to
holding a snotty sobbing unwashed teenager into the floor for hours sounds like a lot of work, plus smelly teenagers are kinda cute in a pat them on the head from a distance sort of way, i just couldn't be bothered to torture them, i'd much rather have calm, so i could read the paper or something, teenagers in the shower or on the toilet ugh
i am way too laid back to even know where to begin acting like PV staff does over on the girls side. i just couldn't do it
i would give them space so i wouldn't have to restrain them,
Here is is a quote I got out of my ethics class about domination and pornography, I thought it was interesting in the context of how PV treats the kids ie. it tries to dominate every aspect of their lives and minds.
"According to MacKinnon pornography celebrates and legitimizes rape, battery, sexual harassment and the sexual abuse of children. More generally, it eroticizes the enforcement of dominance and submission that is common to all of them" ( MacKinnon 45).
If you look at it like this and watch TV for a while you realize just how sexist society is. It also explains, if male staff are not gay, why the girls side seems more abusive in the survivors accounts even though they both follow the same abusive criteria.
Over all, all of these programs are very sexually abusive and the criteria for them is from a very sexually abusive place in some perverts mind even if the perverts don't openly recognize themselves as sexual abusers.
The things that people are taught they have to be in a society have great influence on how they have to see themselves. It also allows them to believe one thing and do something else completely.
The way these programs work allows for sexual abuse but also allows the abusers to be competely guilt free and even respected in the society while they are allowed to put all their shame on the teens they abuse.
They disserve it because they are bad teens. I am not watching them in the shower i am disciplining them because they disserve it.
I know of two men who had charges brought against them for watching relatives in the shower, one with a camera, another drilled a hole in the wall. I know of another instance where a teacher was filming girls changing.
some people don't find teenagers in the bathroom gross like I do.