I believe that's probably true. Bullying is certainly a learned behavior, but I'm assuming you are an adult and if so, bullying is your choice of behavior and you voluntarily engaged in it.
Well I think even as an adult if you hang around with a certain type of behavior long enough you will pick up their habits. It is an interesting observation, though, DKincaidCFS. I think if someone had said to me "
Did you fabricate your sons or did you fabricate a daughter which is it?" when I first started posting here on fornits I would have been intimidated and backed down. But now after 5 years of back and forth with the same people I feel comfortable enough to fight back. So I think in a sense I have learned these behaviors here on fornits or maybe they were always there and have just emerged over time. I would say I would go much further now than I did 5 years ago.
As I read through this thread I was actually quite shocked. This also fits into some feedback I read on another thread that "pro-program" posters tend to act like other posters are "still in the program" and, in a sense, try to control them here as they were controlled in the program. That is a basic summation of this entire thread and demonstrative of the topic.
From what I have seen, the pro-program posters have no real limits on what they are willing to do or say to try to control or invalidate the abuse victims that post here. I find this to be more than a bit scary because in the program these same personalities have physical access to their victims where the abuse could be much more serious.
As far as limits goes on what people (program pushers as well as anti-program pushers) say I think the limits have no boundaries from what I have read here over the years. I would agree with your observation. There are no limits on how far a person would go to invalidate another poster here. So the limit on how far a pro-program poster would go to invalidate an abuse victim would depend on the individual poster. I think it would vary.
I am intrigued by the comment of pro-program people trying to control others as they were in programs. This is definitely something we see a lot of here on fornits (but not exclusive to the pro-program posters) although there are not many pro-program people on fornits to know if this would be typical behavior of the pro-program group or not.
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