I do hope parents will take the time to post their perspective in this thread. Hopefully now that this forum is moderated they might feel comfortable enough to share their experiences in dealing with their own "troubled" teenager.
When I was living with my family as a teen I really had no concept of love, or that we were supposed to love each other, and that my parents cared about me. So when they'd get calls from the ER saying I od'd again, or cops coming all the time to the house to question/arrest me, and all the other bullshit. I can't even begin to explain all the crap I put my family through, it really is quite unbelievable looking back. Yet, at the age, I thought everything was fine. To my warped world view back then, I was in control and things were taking place as I wanted them to. But the truth was I was losing control of my own life and acting out in ways that hurt everybody around me, not to mention myself.
Now I can empathize with my parents, and I know they really did care about me, and putting myself in their shoes and imaging someone you love destroying themselves in front of you like I did to them, makes me extremely heartsick. I regret putting my family through that more than anything else in my life, I was extremely selfish and like a black hole my energy was devouring everything around me. So they isolated me away from the family in the program, and this was the best thing to do at the time. I realize this now, and even though it wasn't fun, I appreciate their position and respect their decision. I had proven I wasn't in control of my own life, and since I wasn't able to handle making decisions for myself, they had to be made for me.
So they told me when to eat, when to wake up, when to go to sleep, when to go to school, when to go to the bathroom, when to go to the therapist office, when I could have free time, when to clean, and everything else. I had lost the ability to make rational and healthy choices for myself, and had to be taught again like a child. The thing is I stayed angry at my parents for putting me through what I considered to be a waste of my time, but when I got out I asked them what was the point? They said, it saved your life , and that's the most important thing. I dismissed this is a program slogan, but they kept saying that whenever I brought it up. Eventually I realized what they meant, and you know what, they were right.