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Whooter:
Look, Dysfunction Junction, if you bother to look at the posters name it wasnt written by me. It was written by a poster named Deborah. If you can locate an original post then we can discuss it. You are making yourself look foolish and desperate. Search the database posts that "I wrote". I cant control what other people say about me. If I made conflicting statements or if there are posts, that I made, that you dont agree with then I am willing to discuss them openly here on the forum. I stand behind my posts, but I cant defend or fight off other peoples posts. People are free to say what they want this is an open forum.
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Pile of Dead Kids:
Thanks, DJ, hand Whooter another victory in thread derailment. Good thing Morgan's Dad's seen sanity BEFORE the Whospam started. Sorry, Whooter, you derail another thread but still fail again.
Whooter:
Fuck, why does DJ give whooter all that attention? Its like he hands the guy the megaphone and whooter takes over the thread. Why?
Awake:
To Morgan, and her parents, but especially you
I don’t know if this decision is final or not, but what I am hearing is that they might really be willing to work with you on a reasonable alternative. From what is being said there is a very common power struggle going on in the family dynamic. Everyone needs a sense of control over their lives, and if you are willing to give up a little of it, you may not lose it all. Your parents are expressing that this choice IS their last option based on your behavior, and so has become a situation where you are forcing them to force you to cooperate. If you are made to go to this program without resolving this power issue with your parents this vicious cycle might escalate in worse ways than you can imagine. You can’t ‘win’, you really can’t, and whatever alternative they are open to is a good one. I know you can’t just do away with any resentment or bitterness over what has been going on in your family, but if the control tactics come to the point where you have to go to this place under the current circumstances this might become a seething underlying issue that damages your family relationship beyond repair.
I heard one of your parents say they are not entirely right either, and maybe that makes it hard to submit to the choices they want to give you, but if you are willing to put the right and wrong aside for now and just do it you will avoid a far more painful experience in which you will have to submit to a situation you disagree with much more, and you will submit even if you have to learn to fake the most genuine of emotions. It is a unique kind of suffering that you truly do not want, much harder than what it will take for you if you give in now. It may even be better for you in the end as far as getting what you want out of your family relationship, at least you will maintain a position of more equal footing when you are working through things with them rather than being put at the bottom of the ladder. Someday you will find that you are going to want their support in your endeavors, and maybe even want them in your life as equals and friends, but if the situation gets to a point where you are put in a position of powerlessness it may be impossible to accept that support without also accepting their domination of you. You may get married someday, or accomplish things that you will want their blessing for. That blessing may always carry with it that denunciation of you.
I hope you all can give this one last chance to work it out. You may have to live with unresolved anger and it may be difficult to find a way to get along for awhile, but if you can turn things around now and get through it, IT WILL BE WORTH IT. You are always going to be a family, you will never be able to avoid that even if it becomes forever associated with animosity and interactions that disqualify each other. If you, Morgan, can’t make a really tough move to cooperate with your parents now, you may never come back from this.
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Whooter:
--- Quote from: "Awake" ---To Morgan, and her parents, but especially you
I don’t know if this decision is final or not, but what I am hearing is that they might really be willing to work with you on a reasonable alternative. From what is being said there is a very common power struggle going on in the family dynamic. Everyone needs a sense of control over their lives, and if you are willing to give up a little of it, you may not lose it all. Your parents are expressing that this choice IS their last option based on your behavior, and so has become a situation where you are forcing them to force you to cooperate. If you are made to go to this program without resolving this power issue with your parents this vicious cycle might escalate in worse ways than you can imagine. You can’t ‘win’, you really can’t, and whatever alternative they are open to is a good one. I know you can’t just do away with any resentment or bitterness over what has been going on in your family, but if the control tactics come to the point where you have to go to this place under the current circumstances this might become a seething underlying issue that damages your family relationship beyond repair.
I heard one of your parents say they are not entirely right either, and maybe that makes it hard to submit to the choices they want to give you, but if you are willing to put the right and wrong aside for now and just do it you will avoid a far more painful experience in which you will have to submit to a situation you disagree with much more, and you will submit even if you have to learn to fake the most genuine of emotions. It is a unique kind of suffering that you truly do not want, much harder than what it will take for you if you give in now. It may even be better for you in the end as far as getting what you want out of your family relationship, at least you will maintain a position of more equal footing when you are working through things with them rather than being put at the bottom of the ladder. Someday you will find that you are going to want their support in your endeavors, and maybe even want them in your life as equals and friends, but if the situation gets to a point where you are put in a position of powerlessness it may be impossible to accept that support without also accepting their domination of you. You may get married someday, or accomplish things that you will want their blessing for. That blessing may always carry with it that denunciation of you.
I hope you all can give this one last chance to work it out. You may have to live with unresolved anger and it may be difficult to find a way to get along for awhile, but if you can turn things around now and get through it, IT WILL BE WORTH IT. You are always going to be a family, you will never be able to avoid that even if it becomes forever associated with animosity and interactions that disqualify each other. If you, Morgan, can’t make a really tough move to cooperate with your parents now, you may never come back from this.
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Very nicely stated, Awake. Morgan, you should consider those wise words and try to look at those as the best path to get you to age 18. If you can resolve this locally, working with your parents and with a counselor you will be better off.
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