We had to ask to pick up anything, ask to stand up, sit down, and to "talk out" when we wanted to talk to a fellow newcomer. There were no exceptions or variances from one oldcomer to another, if you didnt ask or if the oldcomer failed to notice that you didnt, it was grounds for being FOS. Being "unaware" was huge too....every single newcomer had to be in your sight at all times except for when the door was locked to the bedroom at night and the room and newcomers had been searched. It usually meant a lot of walking backwards and tripping just trying to watch everyone all at once....try it with just one oldcomer (me) and up to five newcomers every night...two or three of which were misbehaving and trying to run out of the room on you.
I really felt like slave labor there towards the end, my shitty host sister was on fifth phase and always left me alone with all the responsibilites at night....I was sleep deprived, and so busy watching over them that I ceased to have any time to my own "therapy" and was confronted in group about not "standing out more in group".
It became a huge releif when I got put on refreshers and didnt have to watch ANYONE when I got home.
My host sister was a real bitch, she threatened me with some piddly little bullshit whenever I tried to ask her for more help with the home situation. She was a fifth phaser so of course she was untouchable.
I actually got confronted in group once about some newcomer girl not writing her MI the night before.....to their suprise I informed them that she hadnt even BEEN in my host home the previous night, and wasnt even my newcomer. Of course I, got ripped anyway for something like not being aware of the girls razors or some shit...and ended up on the potential FOS list for the next rip rap. Wow, it is funny how it all comes back.