Perhaps you are right and the program sucks according to you but nowhere in any of these postings have I seen anyone talk about a program that they think works better than Pathway. hmmmmm??? They just complain that they were made to do things that forced them to look at their own behavior for the first time in their life... boy how degrading is that? Like most in todays society, most postings in here want to blame others for their own short-comings. Well I for one believe YOU are responsible for your own behavior in life. Unfortunately, state law says that because a child is under the age of 18, the parents are still responsible for their actions. Other than emancipating them.... which by the way you can petition the courts to do for yourselves if you can convince reasonable men that you can function reasonably and that your parents are not looking out for your best interests in life.... go for it!!!!!.... relive me of the financial responsibility of keeping your ass safe while you are given an opportunity to learn a better way of surviving in life.
Frankly, this program is not for everyone. Those who chose it instead of a prison sentence for their stupidity and drug or alcohol addiction should have just opted for prision and found out what mind control and physical abuse is all about. ( Don't forget to pack you tub of Vaseline too ) Why parents put in so much effort to prevent their children from death or a major screw-up of their lives when their children (at least the ones who write articles in here) is beyond my comprehension. I say let social Darwinism weed out those who truely wish to continue to use drugs in amounts that are incompatable with life.
I came into this program willingly and have learned a lot about parenting and independently of my child ever figuring out a balance in life, I have found mine,so has my child by the way. I am sorry that you have not found yours. Perhaps you will some day. Some it takes the first 30 -40 or so years of life. When you do, look back and ask yourself ... Did it really have to take this long? What happened to my youth? What treasures in life had I not discovered because I was consumed by my self-centeredness, my own will to do what I wanted at any cost to those around me, and to myself? I hope life works out for you but at this point, I guess I really do not care... sink or swim .... it's your problem now. Hope you learned enough tools in life to survive. Hope you learned enough to have more out of life than to just exist. I guess it is up to you right?
In any event take responsibility for your own screw-ups. Pathway found you as a messed-up child and you want to blame them for continuing to be messed-up???hmmmmm Isn't anyone responsible for their own shit anymore??? Don't expect a program to totally undo your entire past. Don't expect them to erase heredity issues. But for God's sake...you give the program much too much credit for screwing up you life...they only had you for 1 to 2 years. Too bad they didn't raise you from birth... then you could blame them for all your problems. (but you want others to believe that is the case right?
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Ahhhh but you will say ... the program brainwashes the kids and the parents. In fact what you are saying is that you have a weak mind incapable of independent reasoning. Well apparently those who meet the clients at NA or AA meetings are extreemly impressed with most of the kids that come to their meetings. The only comments I hear when I have face to face meetings is how they wished they had such a program when they were that age and saved them all the heartache they have had in their lives. hmmmmm they must have been brainwashed by association too!!!!!
Are there faults with the program? Yes of course there are. As Winston Churchill (former WWW II prime minister of Great Britain for those who don't know) once said "Democracy is the worst form of government in the world ... except for all the rest" For me and my family, Pathway is the worst form of substance abuse treatment in the world except for all the rest!!!!
I write this to give balance to the crap I have seen written in here so that other parents who may choose to TRY to help their FAMILY have an informed and opposite point of view. I do not write this to disuade you of your issues. That would be impossible for me to do or have desire for me to do. As is the rest of YOUR life, it's for YOU to deal with.... so DEAL WITH IT AND QUIT WHINING ABOUT HOW BAD THINGS ARE FOR YOU AND DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF TO MAKE IT BETTER!!! Let those who choose this route make up their own mind if you truely believe they have one.
Kudos to Ms. Rowe for the changes she has instituted. My hat is off to all the families and staff involved in Pathway who help make it a positive place to learn about how to handle life. She is a compassionate and devoted to her lifework as are all the staff members. Hold your heads up high. I for one thank you :wave: for all you have done for me and my family.... Enough said... I feel better that's all that matters.
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