Well, I respect your conviction. Its good that you try to see the positives in what you are going through. However, the fact does remain that how much of the abusive treatment, coupled with the effective treatment is really necessary?
You see, everything you just explained to me I have heard a thousand times before. The same words, the same phrases and their respective contexts. NOTHING about what you just explained to me sounds foriegn or at all unlike what was taught in my program. Therefore, it is difficult for me to believe that where the modaility exists, the abuse does not.
The fate of my program was left in the hands of a second phase oldcomer who wouldnt vote for me to move forward for months on end. All because, in her infinite wisdom as a 15 year old troubled kid, felt that I was "arrogant". I tried my very best to do what I was told and to be "honest" and I was repeatedly held back from any contact with my mother or family. Im sorry, but children in such dire circumstances as you have defined do not need to be "treated" by other messed up kids. The very last thing I am going to do is spend 30,000 or 20,000 or even 10 bucks on treatment for my kid by an unqualified teenager. The basis of the treatment that PFC and Straight are modeled after leaves a huge margin for personal judgement and interferance. THAT is the part that the parents do not see, cannot see, and should be very very frightened of. Being yelled at, called a loser, a liar, a worthless human being.....all from kids who dont even know how or what they are judging against other than the fact that if they dont, they will be put in the shoes of the one they are confronting. Thats a HORRIBLE way to do any kind of recovery, I dont care how you look at it. Treatment and recovery should not be the lesser of two evils.