On 2006-06-13 04:08:00, MightyAardvark wrote:
"Why would the presence of Native Americans be an issue Debs?
...it does not require a majority to prevail, but rather an irate,
tireless minority keen to set brush fires in people's minds..
--Samuel Adams
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As you said in another thread:
Exactly, a lot of the stuff that these hellholes call "manipulation" is really perfectly interaction. It's important though to undertand that the "Teenhelp" industry makes a habit of hijacking the terminology of legitimate psychology and twisting it to fit a totally different agenda.First, I agree with you. When a kid is persistent with his/her pleas or attempts to ?negotiate? the thing they want, it is labeled manipulation. Parents don?t want to be bothered with rational discourse, negotiation, or debate. Kid is supposed to accept No without explanation or discussion. Parents are ?afraid? of being manipulated because they can?t hold a firm line.
One of the top reasons my son spent 20 months in pergatory. Did they 'cure' him? Nope, much to his father's distress I'm sure. As he has aged, it's seen as drive, assertiveness,one of the 7 characteristics of successful people.
Now to the Native issue. Just as programs have hijacked and twisted psych terms, so have many of the programs co-opted and bastardized Native culture and spirituality. Vision Quest and Sweat Lodges are considered sacred ceremonies and only to be conducted by a recognized and traditionally trained person.
?more than 100 years of forced assimilation (brainwashing) of the Lakota, Dakota and Nakota peoples, our ways of praying and conducting ceremonies have also been desecrated, contaminated, profaned, misused and abused.
When a way of living means the survival of a nation of people, then is it harsh to ask that some respect be shown to those peoples' lifeways? (I cannot even say "religion" because that concept is too shortsighted and narrow.)
The total destruction of the people's lifeways was the reason for taking away the language, banning the "religion" and stopping the singing of sacred songs, besides destroying the sources of economics. Destroying the total lifeways of a nation of people would destroy those people as a nation. They would no longer be Lakota, Dakota, Nakota but would be ... tahdah: American. That is what happened.
When I was much younger, I heard elders talking about a time when the non-Indians were going to come to indigenous people and say, "Teach us how to pray." And I remember the sadness in their voices as they continued by saying, "They took everything and now they want our way of praying."
In the sixties, the hippies were among the first in the Southwest to begin appropriating Indian lifeways, as if the Creator told them to do this. Then it spread like wildfire until by the 1990s there were pictures in major international magazines of Sun Dances being held in Germany. with only white people. The disrespect knew no bounds.I find it ironic that the same culture that economically devastated Natives, forced their children into white boarding schools (programs), stripped them of their traditional customs and spirituality, now co-opt Native culture/ spirituality in brainwashing programs for their own children. And, for profit. These ceremonies were never for profit. No money was/is exchanged.
While sweating is not unique to Natives, and not all Natives conducted Sweat Lodges, they all had some method of purging toxins from the body. The tribe I?m descended from chose a more gentle approach- lounging in hot springs. The Lakota and others preferred a more intense method.
Why do the programs call them Sweat Lodges? Hold Vision Quests? Issue Native names? Smudge with sage sticks?
Finns knew the value of sweating. Why not put in a sauna and teach the value of eating well and sweating?
Why not hold communion and/or baptize them?
Would it be appropriate for a staff member to do either?
I would like to think that their use of Native spirituality was an admission that it has value. I think it?s more to do with- Nostalgia sells.
My new-agey neighbor sent her kid to Skyline Journey, in spite of warnings, because she felt he had a ?spiritual connection? with the owner of the program- from a past life. SJ was shut down after his death and they opened a new program called Distant Drums. The family had some connection with the BIA (I believe it was).The mom excused his death as "karma". :scared:
It sickens me to think that these kids may believe they are having a traditional Native experience, and/or that they will make a negative association with things Native (or nature in general) due to the deplorable conditions they are forced to live in at programs.
As for Vision Quest, another Native ceremony- Natives would shutter to know how white people were conducting them in programs-. which bears no resemblance to a Native Vision Quest. It?s disrespectful.
Again, Natives don?t hold a patent on going into the woods to reflect, re-evaluate, and envision the future of one?s life- programs could do this without implying that it?s Native. I have to question how much value would be derived from being forced to participate. Did you see the 14 yr old kid in Brat Camp? He was shaking and crying for his mother. He was not properly prepared. If it were done traditionally, his parent, siblings, and other family would have been there supporting him. He also would not have been forced to stay out if he weren?t ready for the passage- it's okay, you can try again next month/year. I noticed they didn?t force him to do rock climbing, but they did leave him alone in the desert to deal with his fears. Sorry, that?s just sadistic. And given that this was the final ?challenge?, I?m sure it made a strong impression and worked to keep him in line after he returned home. Who would want to be returned to such sadistic torture. I?d sure tow the line. It served the adults purposes. I feel certain it didn?t serve him at all.
I would want to know who is running the Sweat Lodge, how they had been trained, who monitors the kids to ensure they don?t overheat. Ignorant people have died in sweats? and saunas. Given the lackadaisical attitude toward providing kids needs in programs, I consider this to be highly risky. I personally would not allow my child to participate in a Sweat Lodge with any stranger. I would want to know their background and experience and what values they were going to impress upon my child in the process.
To the program person- how far do you take this? Do the kids sing and pray? Do kids on VQ make prayer ties? etc.etc.etc. Is there a Native on staff or consulting?
And I'm still curious, why no Lunch? How many calories in Breakfast and Dinner?