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SHH:
Well some of you misinterpreted what I typed. I never said I didnt allow my son to say no, or didnt respect his decisions or anything like that. I do think that a structured environment is good, but you make it sound as if Im some sort of meanie LOL and that I only want the neighbor's approval. Thats not what I meant. I meant that he got compliments on how polite and thoughtful of others he was, not for my benefit, but for his. and youre right about one thing, the teen years will be trying. But, he knows I love him no matter what, and I am sure we will get through it. Trust me he gets spoiled plenty, I give in alot to his requests, but he also knows No means No.

Anonymous:

--- Quote ---On 2006-05-30 04:00:00, SHH wrote:

"Well some of you misinterpreted what I typed. I never said I didnt allow my son to say no, or didnt respect his decisions or anything like that. I do think that a structured environment is good, but you make it sound as if Im some sort of meanie LOL and that I only want the neighbor's approval. Thats not what I meant. I meant that he got compliments on how polite and thoughtful of others he was, not for my benefit, but for his. and youre right about one thing, the teen years will be trying. But, he knows I love him no matter what, and I am sure we will get through it. Trust me he gets spoiled plenty, I give in alot to his requests, but he also knows No means No."

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I agree that some misunderstood your post. I was only trying to point out that different approaches work for different kids. The one size fits all approach that programs use and pop psychology books preach doesn't always work.

My Father was quite strict and that worked fine for me. I'm in my middle 40s and so was raised during a time when corporal punishment was the norm both at home and in school.

Still, I trusted my Dad (still do) and although we had our verbal confrontations during those tough teen years, he never waivered and I never felt belittled or disrespected.

I think the key is in the trust and respect areas. I always respected my Father because he set a good example of what a good man should be. You know, the old 'tough but fair' kind of guy.

At the same time, I would never hit my child, and my parenting style is much different than my Father's. Despite my leniency, my Father has told me that I'm a good Father.

AtomicAnt:
Sorry, forgot to log in. That was me.

Anonymous:
another HLA troll

sounds like kathleen or Jeff Hollowway or John Mcmilllon

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