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Anonymous:
What other options are there for parents who have kids that need help?  What does a parent do when all the local options of counseling have not worked, the public school system in useless, and the Therepeutic Boarding Schools seem corupt?  What is the best option when everything else has failed?  Do any of you think it is possible to have an effective TBS?  What would one look like to you?

Anonymous:
90% of the time, the kids don't need help, the parents do. Sad but true. You're going to have to be a lot more specific than "need help" around here.

I severely doubt that this topic is anything but a troll, based on language choices; the magic phrase "all the options" is used, and the public school system "is" useless while the TBSes only "seem" corrupt.

However, if this is a real topic, and your son or daughter really does have serious mental problems, then the only remaining option is a real mental hospital staffed with real psychiatrists. Regular visitation is usually recommended, and the goal is to provide appropriate treatment and release the child as soon as possible. (Hmm. Wonder why they don't do that at TBSes? Ah yes, MONEY)

Badpuppy:
What makes you think counseling isn't working? Have you tried Functional Family Therapy. What input did your kid have in selecting a therapist that he would want to work with? What help have you attempted to get to make you a better parent? I don't necessarily believe that all parents who send their kids to TBS are poor parents, but they don't have the skill level to deal with their kids. You can have average parental skill and a child who needs better than average parenting. In addition parenting is something that goes on until the parents die. Even in death they teach their kids something about how to die.

I go over to the ADD forums and many posters have terrible problems with their ADD/HD kids. The types of problems that land kids in hospitals or in trouble with the law. BUT AMAZINGLY ENOUGH NOBODY IS THINKING ABOUT SENDING THEIR KIDS TO A TBS. They get professional mental health reccommendations and follow them.

Anonymous:
Most of the time the kids who have been sent to TBS or wilderness have refused to go to counseling at home, or are lying to the counselor. This includes ones the kids have agreed to see. Family therapy has failed- the kid is still abusing substances, skipping school, refusing to abide by normal rules and disrespecting family members and teachers.



There are many non-corrupt TBSs and RTCs. There are also some terrific wilderness programs. An Educational Consultant can help you find the best program for your child.  A lot depends on what your kid's issues are, how strong the kid is academically and what the family's financial resources are.  Go to http://www.strugglingteens.org for more information.
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SHH:
I think alot of parenting issues are when parents decide they need to start disciplining the kids when they turn 13. It doesnt work that way. Make sure your kid knows you mean business from age 6 months. Make sure your kid knows No means No, back up your consequence threats with real consequences, and make sure your kid knows the boundaries and what happens when they cross them. Make sure they show others respect, and make sure you set a good example. Make sure you dont give them every single material thing they want just because you can afford it, And above all, make sure they know you love them no matter what. Parenting is no walk in the park, but its rewards are enormous. I am proud of the fact that I was strict with my son from an early age. He got compliments on how he behaved, how polite he was (please and thank you), and at the age of 10 now all I need to do when he starts doing something unacceptable is change my tone of voice and thats all it takes to get him to settle down and do what has been asked of him. He and I have a wonderful close relationship. He is a bright, funny, sweet, loving child. Being tough in the beginning makes it far easier when they get older.

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