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Hyde School, Organizational Incest
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-03-07 17:48:00, Anonymous wrote:
"I wrote the original entry about organizational incest. Sorry for the typo in the first paragraph. I can spell, just can't type.
Thanks to the person who suggested further resources. I will read them.
In answer to the question about my therapist, her role was to help me put my experiences as student and staffer into perspective rather than to offer me her opinions. The organizational incest article came to her mind as I described my Hyde experiences. The nature of the incest in the community was broader than the intermarriage of alums/staff, employment of extended Gauld family, recruitment of extended family and friends of students/staff, although that certainly was part of it. It included the shared lingo and behaviors, the insular nature of the community, and a number of other traits.
Over the years, I have worked on Hyde-related issues in therapy numerous times. Some of the issues are...
Shame for letting myself get sucked in and for recruiting others in my family, betrayal and victimization by adults whom I trusted, shame as teacher/intern for perpetuating behaviors that had caused me emotional harm as a student, sadness because I invested so heavily in what I idealistically believed was a worthy cause that was going to "change American education" , loss when I left the community and relationships there behind, anger at ways in which I was treated, particularly by staff of the opposite sex, dismay when I think of open school meetings in the student union where parents exposed to the whole community their deepest, darkest sexual secrets, inadequacy when thrown into a class to teach a subject I myself had not studied since the 10th grade, shock at the behaviors I witnessed in my trusted mentors as the community turned in on itself and imploded, etc, etc. There are complex layers to each of these emotions, but the most difficult to live with are those related to ways in which I may have caused harm to others. "
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If there are certain families that you feel guilty about hurting, my suggestion is to try to reach out to them. Even though it sounds like it was many years ago, I bet they would appreciate it.
I harbour ill will towards a few people at that school who hurt my family, but more importantly I feel betrayed because of what they put my daughter through. I would be especially receptive if one of these people reached out to me to apologize. This would be what the true Hyde spirit is and would help my family heal.
Anonymous:
Does Joe Gauld's language in his letter to the Hyde-DC faculty (in another thread) trouble anyone else besides me, when he refers to Joanne Wingood Goubourn '75 as the "moral leader and ultimate authority of the Hyde community"? Nothing personal against Joanne, but the religious overtones here are frightening to me.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-03-30 18:56:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Does Joe Gauld's language in his letter to the Hyde-DC faculty (in another thread) trouble anyone else besides me, when he refers to Joanne Wingood Goubourn '75 as the "moral leader and ultimate authority of the Hyde community"? Nothing personal against Joanne, but the religious overtones here are frightening to me.
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I noticed Joe's wording also, but it doesn't surprise me in the least! There were always religious overtones at Hyde. The seminars are very similar to AA meetings, but the higher power was Joe Gauld the founder of Hyde School.
Very scary
Anonymous:
IT is not surprising to me that the notion of an internal moral compass, and that that compass should be a key part of leadership scares you. Again Joe never claimed to be a "higher power" in the context of Bill Wilson's writings, or a prophet as claimed in another thread.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-03-31 03:07:00, Anonymous wrote:
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IT is not surprising to me that the notion of an internal moral compass, and that that compass should be a key part of leadership scares you. Again Joe never claimed to be a "higher power" in the context of Bill Wilson's writings, or a prophet as claimed in another thread."
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He might not have claimed to be a "higher power" in the one letter, but he certainly has claimed it in the past and seems to still be doing it.
Truth is there is nothing wrong with the leader of this school running it whatever way he wants. It is not for any of us to say. What is important is that potential parents go in with their eyes wide open based on truth rather than the false hype the school dishes out.
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