On 2005-12-31 11:19:00, Truth Searcher wrote:
"I do agree with you all about high school being useless in most respects..... with a few exceptions:
Well, yeah, that's the largely unchallented default belief about it. And it's all pretty much the way I believed when I put my eldest kid in school. I've decided that was a big oversight on my part. Should have followed my gut and looked into it further. Let me challenge your thinking on this, point by point.
I believe (at least in my daughters case) that it is a training ground for life.
Better training for life than
real life? How is that possible?
It is about learning a good work ethic.
My dad taught me a good work ethic. He worked. He worked for pay to support us, he worked on projects around the house, he worked on cars, he worked on constantly improving his education through reading everything around. I worked with him part time repairing ceiling fans for a neighbor's trendy Hunter Fan shop. And I worked for the guitar I wanted by babysitting, mowing lawns, throwing papers... anything you could name or I could think of to suggest. Wash your car? Sweep your sidewalk, ma'am? Walk your dog? Wash the damned dog?
There was NONE of that going on in school. Almost all of the "work" was busy work. It was just a lot of sitting, enforced boredome, something to be endured till I could get to the work I wanted to do.
It is about learning organizational skills.
By being told what to do, what to think about, how to think about it and when to quit being interested, rush to the next class and just as quickly become interested in something else? You don't learn organizational skills by having someone else dictate to you just exactly how you'll organize your thoughts and papers, right down to which grade of pencil (not pen!) you'll use.
Time management.
Ditto. You learn time management by having free time all your own with which to accomplish something of some value. Dear god PLEASE let me paint a room or make a candle or learn to play something on that damned guitar but PLEASE, if nothing else, let my time be well spent and not wated on meaningless friggin' busy work!
It is about doing menial tasks even when we don't want to.
What kind of life are you trying to prepare her for? Slave work? Prison? What could possibly be the value of doing meanial tasks that the doer doesn't even want done? Except to break their will just a bit.
It is about dealing with jerk people.
The best way I know of to do that is to avoid them. Outside of school, we learn to choose our friends wisely, to associate with people worthy of our time, attention, respect and company. The second best way is to outsmart them. The next would probably be to just wait patiently till they fuck themselves so you can laugh. I learned that in school because options 1 and 2 above were closed to me.
It is about respecting someone in authority.
In the real world, you tolerate assholes who manage to gain some authority. But you give your respect to people who
earn it from you.
I don't give two hoots if she remembers anything about geometry or psychology. I care that she is prepared to take care of herself in the real world without a safety net under her. Thats why I struggle with the idea of letting her quit high school.
School is about the worst place to learn those things. Except maybe prison, but it's close.
In addition, in our very economically depressed area, it is tough to flip burgers without a high school education. There are too many people looking for work in this area. Supply and demand is not on her side.
In any type of economy, it takes some wit, some determination, some creativity and confidence to make it. Don't you go telling her she can't do this or can't do that. What do you know about what she can do? What does anybody know? You believe in God? Well, I don't, but if he did exist, he'd be the only one who actually
knows what your daughter can't do. Don't stand in the way of her finding out.
This, of course, is all my thinking on it. I'd be very interested in hearing your daughter's take on it. Also, you and she both might enjoy reading some John Taylor Gatto. Here's his whole 800 pg tome online for free:
http://www.johntaylorgatto.com/underground/toc1.htmOr you can find a copy in your library system, I'm sure. Please do ask your kid to read my post and tell me what she thinks.
Faith, as well intentioned as it may be, must be built on facts, not fiction- faith in fiction is a damnable false hope.
--Thomas Edison, American inventor