On 2005-12-07 07:38:00, Anonymous wrote:
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On 2005-12-06 22:19:00, Anonymous wrote:
"On 2005-12-06 21:28:00, Lars wrote:
"Wow, the place really hasn't changed much since I went there. I won't tell you not to go if you really feel you need to support your family, but I can assure you it's not a getting to know each other thing with fun activities. I call Hyde the "no fun zone." Read the threads on this board very carefully. There was nothing I hated more than family weekends when I there.
Expect to get sucked into the drama. My advice (besides avoiding the place)? Stand your ground. Don't let any obnoxious, know it all jerks push you around."
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Saw this board for the first time. I would just like to echo Larry's, (Lars) sentiments. I was one of those parents who was sucked into the drama of the moment, which thankfully I transended as the months went by and realized the hypocrisy and dishonesty that permeated the entire hierarchy of Hyde School.
The Ed's of the world can B.S. all they want, but the truth is Hyde is nothing but a Cult and unfortunately a dumping ground for children whose parents are desperate to find an answer for their various problems.
And for Ed's reference or anyone else my name is Steve Feig.
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Thank you for having the courage to post your comment and name. I understand why it's important for people to identify themselves, and I also understand that a number of people on this board are not comfortable doing so because of their deep mistrust of Hyde. Parents whose kids are still at Hyde or who are contemplating or engaged in legal action against Hyde have very legitimate reasons for remaining anonymous here.
Like you, after a number of months we figured out how much hypocrisy and dishonesty permeate Hyde. We have encountered some caring and dedicated staff there, but, sadly, they are completely overshadowed by some frighteningly incompetent, harmful staff who seem to be meeting their own pathetic emotional needs by mistreating and judging other people. The more time I spend around Hyde staff the more convinced I am that the school attracts some staff who have led very rocky lives themselves and are "working out" some of their own issues in this protective bubble and end up taking on Joe Gauld's destructive ways because this gives meaning and structure to their own confused lives. As you suggest, the similarities between some classic cults and Hyde are powerful: the God-like leader, the arrogance, the push to control and judge others, the scripted language, the troubled pasts of many adherents who end up in positions of power, the cliches that provide quick responses to all dilemmas, etc. This package should scare off any parent who considers Hyde for their child.
