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What exactly do people mean when they say "Get over it'?

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Antigen:
I have to agree w/ you, `80's guy. I 'got over it' when I quit thinking about the whole ordeal so much and just went about my life.
To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better; whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Anonymous:
Just curious Anon, What part of you died while you were at the Seed? How were you changed at the Seed? Please elaborate if you will.

GregFL:
Ginger.....a nad passionate human!


Bill is a lucky guy.




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cleveland:
There is no such thing as 'getting over' anything in life...you grow another layer, but whatever is under that is still there...

I used to hate my father passionately, mostly because I loved him so much and felt so reject...we have a decent relationship now and this morning I got up early and was daydreaming and thought about my dad, now 75 years old, and I felt almost none of the old anger, only love. But the memory of the rage I felt is still there, and it influences me today in ways I probably don't understand.

In order to 'get over' the Seed I had to go back and work on those parts of myself that the Seed had not allowed...

My relationship with my parents
My sexuality (giggle, giggle!)
My sense of shame and insecurity
My politics, morals and spirituality
My relationship with 'substances' (alcohol, cigarettes, grass)

I did therapy. I redead therapy. I read every book I could. I re-integrated with my family. I made friends. I joined Adult Children of Alcoholics. I left it. I sat in an AA meeting. I went to a bar. I decided I was an artist. I travelled alone thru Europe. I made friends, lost them. I got high. I had sex. I fell in love, I got married, I got divorced. I made mistakes. I went to school. I excelled at things, failed at things, tried and rejected things. I lived my life!

I read every book on cults I could find, since there was no Fornits site. I read 'Drama of the Gifted Child' by Alice Miller, about child abuse. I highly recommend 'The Sun' magazine published in Chapel Hill. I do yoga. Whatever!

Oh there's more, and I could bore you, but I am 46 years old and the part of me that 'died' at the Seed was my independence, and that is something I had to rekindle and nurture and grow. The Seed gave me all the answers, ready-made responses and false certainties. On my own I had to reinvent the world for myself...

Anonymous:
Thank you Cleveland for that well thought out response. It is good food for thought. I will need sometime to think about what you posted and see how these things apply to me.

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