Well seeing as how we lived on campus, we were married for almost 7 yrs, had 3 children on campus, visited my mother and father in law every 3 or 4 days on campus, and I went to Bill's office to deliver the mail every day during the week, ate in the cafeteria at every thanksgiving and several times a month, I doubt seriously your claim that ANYBODY didnt know Bill was married or knew who I was. Was I invisible? I dont think so. I also used the copier in the admin building every time I sent out report cards. Maybe they didnt know my name, but they sure as hell saw me because every time I was out in the yard, or on campus, or down by the lake, I saw students. Was I invisible then? NO I dont think so. What about he bonfire at Halloween that was my idea, I attended that. What about the fireworks the first 4th of July. I attended that. Maybe the people you happen to speak to just didnt pay attention. But if I was up there and lived there they KNEW he was married...DUH. His kids visited the office at least once a week. IF anybody thought Bill wasn't married they were living in the clouds or something.