*** Mom waslooking for an excuse to go pick up her daughter. She could read literally hundreds of positive stories, but she chose to believe the handful of "victim" stories. Daughter will again be back in control because of mom's guilt and giving her whatever it takes to "forgive" her for doing that to her... :lol:
Even if your interpretation of this situation were accurate, please explain what you found amusing? I mean, if you truly feel the girl desperately needed 'treatment' the mother was preventing her from getting; why would you find that funny? Or choose to ridicule the mother? Let's face it, you know nothing about this teen or this family's situation.
Even if your interpretation were accurate, please explain what business it is of your's what this mother 'chooses'?
You Waspies are soooo big on 'choices', why can't you 'choose' to accept other parents choices, even if god forbid they were wrong; and lay off the criticism of those who remove their children?
What's the payoff for you?
Your interpretation of parent/child relationships is really whack. Kids are never 'in control', although they might desperately want to be. They are and always will be at the mercy of their parents choices and/or the laws of society. And, one who exhibits destructive, disconnected, distressed behavior is NOT someone who is 'in control'. In fact, quiet the opposite.
You are 'choosing' to be a nosey control freak. Choosing to think you know better than this mother what is in the best interest of HER child. Bad, bad choices!! My goodness, would you be attempting to 'control' this mother by influencing her choice? In effect suggesting she not allow her daughter to control her, but to defer to your control?
I'd go a step further and say that your comment was also designed to influence other parents choices who may be riding the fence, questioning their choice to incarcerate their teen. I mean, no parent wants to feel a 'victim' of their kid, or that they are failures if they choose to remove them.
There are many 'success' stories that don't include having one's teen isolated from the world and BM'd into a passive stupor. Your attitude toward teens and parents should be a big red flag for anyone considering this option.