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« Reply #150 on: November 16, 2005, 10:46:00 AM »
I would carefully explore all of your options. The things that your son is struggling with should be taken in to account when looking for a placement. any place that he goes to will have good points and bad points. his welfare should be paramount. in my opinion the younger students tend to struggle more and have a harder time at hla, especially if they are less mature than thier peers. talk to as many people that you can find about any school, take a look at the hla section on this board, it will help you get a better feel for the school and some of the former students and there are a few staff also.
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« Reply #151 on: November 16, 2005, 12:53:00 PM »
Jody ...

There are lots of possibilities for placements, if indeed one is needed.  But getting turned down by one private school and somebody suggesting HLA hardly seems a reason to send a 13 year old away.

I'd make suggestions if I knew more, and if doing so wouldn't subject me to untold abuse from those who oppose all therapeutic schools.  Some are quite good, others are terrible, and a few are downright abusive.  There is no reason to take a chance on anything questionable.  Just also remember that any school, including open, public schools, can have a problem, and schools enrolling kids with real behavior issues are more likely to have challenges.  That is not a reason for abuse, but neither is it reason to jump if one kid in 100 has a genuine accident or hurts himself.
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« Reply #152 on: December 09, 2005, 09:51:00 PM »
My heart goes out to the students and families that didn't have a positive experience at HLA, and apparently those are the only ones we're hearing from.  These comments do not represent my son's peer group though, at least the ones that stuck it out and are finishing the program.  Our son has turned his life around since going to HLA.  He is self-confident, happy, has made incredible friendships that I know he will treasure for a lifetime and has become very close to both of his counselors and a lot of the staff.  I have two 3-inch notebooks jammed with copies of our almost daily emails, we talk twice a week on the phone (and though there is a counselor nearby, it has never influenced our conversations, which are sometimes negative and most of the time not).  I admit, the first couple months were rough with minimal contact except in letters, but it kept getting better and he gots lots of privileges as he progressed through the elements.  He has been home for frequent visits.  Granted, in the beginning there were lots of things I'm sure he hated about HLA.  He was NEVER abused though, trust me, or he would not have stayed.  When he turned 18, he chose to complete the program.  He's looking forward to a future full of opportunities he never would have had otherwise, and has been accepted in a couple different colleges.  He is and always has been an incredible kid.  He had some serious issues, like all the kids do that go there, or they wouldn't be there in the first place.  He has grown up and gotten his life back.  No program is perfect, but HLA was a good thing for him.  He would have preferred to be home, no doubt, but admits the environment he left was not what he needed if he was going to have a future.  He also went to Ridge Creek and thought it was great.  He even started thinking he might get into counseling or working with teens himself someday.  He has always loved the outdoors and never felt like he was being abused or tortured.  He also gained weight and looked healthier than he had in two years.  I'm sure the people who are bitter and angry have their own stories and I respect that.  Just don't put everyone and the entire program down, because it has helped a lot more kids than it has failed.  It gave us our son back and our family is happy now and eagerly awaiting his homecoming.  I've seen a ton of improvements and changes at HLA just in the last 18 months.  I hope they keep improving the program.  Oh, to the person who said it's rich parents who ship their kids off so they don't have to deal with them..... that's a crock.  Sending your child away, regardless of their problems, is the hardest thing any parent could ever have to do other that witness their child destroying their life with drugs or alcohol or some other problem that could destroy their lives as effectively as a car wreck!  I just wish that all the parents and kids that need help will keep searching until they get it.  Do your research but then give HLA a chance.  It worked for a lot of us.
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« Reply #153 on: December 28, 2005, 10:55:00 PM »
I am currently a student at HLA and I felt it would be good to voice my opinion. I am 17 years of age , about to turn 18.( after my 18th birthday when given the oppurtunity to leave at my own free will , I am going to continue to finish the program) while HLA has it's down sides, as most things in life do , HLA is a place that can help if you are willing to let it. I have spent several days rejecting the program , trying to fool myself , friends, councelors and family that I should be pulled b/c I am fine.I also fully admit to several conversations with my friends also enrolled in the program about how much we hate our lives there and how we want to one day shut it down or run away.I have served time on restriction, clean air , and staff escorts.I also have been given a chance to grow and learn from my life and others. I have received great advice from adults and peers there that look out for your best interests.  Looking back after being in the program for 11 months , I feel staying has been one of the best decisions my family and I have made in a long time.Should certain things at HLA be changed in my honest opinion... Sure! I also think that Subway should come out with a new kind of sandwich. In other words, HLA may or may not change. Is the way the programs working right now truely honestly causing harm to anyone?... From my first hand experiencen NO. HLA is not the right place for everyone. It can be too strict for some cases , and too leniant for others. If the HLA experience has been negetive for any students and there families ,I truely feel for them and hope they are getting the help they may or may not need else where. All I can say is that is has been infact the one thing that has helped me ( and I have been to wilderness , emotional growth boarding school , traditional boarding school , and both private and public highschool) To anyone looking into HLA , get all the facts you can. But choose your basis for judgement on your own experience, not others. Not on mine , or anyone else's on this website. I will leave it at that
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« Reply #154 on: December 28, 2005, 10:58:00 PM »
You are CURRENTLY a student, eh?  :roll: Why are you wasting your time coming on an internet board to explain all this?

Could it be that the SCHOOL IS MAKING YOU DO THIS!??

YOU ARE FUCKING PATEHTIC HLA & CO!! PATHETIC!
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« Reply #155 on: December 28, 2005, 11:01:00 PM »
What makes you think the student isn't doing it of their own free will? Do you honestly think that NO student at all would ever say they think HLA helped them? That would be pretty ignorant I think.
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« Reply #156 on: December 28, 2005, 11:02:00 PM »
no. i would like to think its because I tkae pride in my school and my progress in life to become a better person.but I also respect other peoples opinions.so why are you on this website may I ask ?
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« Reply #157 on: December 28, 2005, 11:05:00 PM »
thank you for your input.. yet it is on my own free will. I am currently on break at home. why else would I be here if I didnt care about helping teens with what they may easily get lost in. thats why i care , for people like me who have struggled and for once, want help.
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« Reply #158 on: December 28, 2005, 11:18:00 PM »
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Why are you wasting your time coming on an internet board....


Oh, wait a minute, I am on an internet board.   I feel so stupid, but atleast my response is intelligent and thought out and I used emotocons to express how I am feeling instead of words.  It just makes me mad when others are doing so well, I only like to hear from people who are doing poorly and are angry like me.  What was that I said again?

Oh, yea, YOU ARE FUCKING PATEHTIC HLA & CO!! PATHETIC (I thought that line up myself), I feel so good after saying that.
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« Reply #159 on: December 28, 2005, 11:20:00 PM »
haha well I give you props. it was smooth. and im sorry fi im not angry enough for you , ( beleive me , I used to be , still am in some ways) but is also bugs me when people bash stuff that has helped people. so in a way , we are both on the same page, just with different things.
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« Reply #160 on: December 28, 2005, 11:23:00 PM »
what do you have to do with HLA anyways ? why are you on this website ?
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« Reply #161 on: December 28, 2005, 11:40:00 PM »
I never actually went to HLA but I like to bash all programs, throw gas on the fire so they look worse than they really are.  I hate my parents and this is a good release for me.  It pisses me off when other people come on here and pretend to have a good relationship with their parents when they know all parents suck and only want to screw their kids up by sending them away.
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« Reply #162 on: December 28, 2005, 11:52:00 PM »
what if I told you im not faking it. not dont get me wrong.. ive got issues. im not lil miss perfect preacher. ive been through hell in my life. i dont mean that liek im saying i have it worse than you or anyone else , i dont play that game. but i just mean , ive been where it seems like you are. but it can get better. i knwo you dont wanna hear that. i used to beat up anyone who used to tell me that. but it is true.
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« Reply #163 on: December 29, 2005, 12:39:00 AM »
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pweese believe me HLA is good

pweez wont somwun beleeve me ??
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« Reply #164 on: December 29, 2005, 12:40:00 AM »
ps you sound pretty stupid. are all kids who go to HLA so dumb? it doesnt reflect well on the school
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