I wrote a little somethin' about marriage a few months ago. The idea says to revolt against the license, but the real main idea is just to kinda shake things up about what marriage really is, or at least steer some people clear of getting a marriage license. Here it is...
Have a wedding ceremony, and include everything you always wanted in it... the wedding gown, tuxedos, all the guests, the brides' maids, the reception, the honeymoon, and do it at any church you want. If you're not religious, do it somewhere besides a church. See, that sounds great, right? I left out one thing though... the marriage license.
Do you really need the government to validate and enforce your commitment to lifelong love and monogamy? The first thing that will run through people's heads when they hear that a wedding couple is not going to use a marriage license is: "Then, it is not a real marriage". That thought is an example of government brainwashing, and we should shake free of it. What makes your marriage real is the fact that you decided to commit to it on your own, not by government influence, permission or force. You as a couple are the reason a marriage came into existence, not the government. What if there was no government at all? Would your marriage commitment not be real? Or, say the current government who issues your marriage license loses all of its power through war or something. The government would be gone along with the government recognition of your marriage, but you are still married.
Getting engaged is real, right? Getting engaged doesn?t have a government license in order to validate it, but it is real.
Allowing the government to recognize or enforce a marriage does a few things: 1. It basically turns courts and attorneys into the owners of your divorce, and you have to buy your right to leave a marriage from them. Divorce courts are famous for gender bias. Divisionism among genders leads to large-scale gender discrimination. Divisionism is the seed; discrimination is the full-grown tree. 2. It alienates gays & lesbians because the government deems them unworthy of lifelong love and monogamy. 3. It lets the government think they are the keepers of whether or not your morals and commitments are valid and real.
A marriage is a real thing without the government enforcement and validation of it. We should be recognizing it that way as a society. I would like for the people to stop telling the government that we regard them worthy of validating and enforcing our marriages by revolting against the marriage license. Marriage should be a practice of enlightenment completely separate and apart from government, not brainwashing towards government intrusion.
If you want to change your last name to your spouse?s last name, go ahead and do it without the marriage license; however, government-validated names and identities is another issue, which will be written about separately.
You don?t need a government marriage to protect your beneficiaries. You can name anyone you want to name in your last will and testament. I am sure you would not forget to include your true spouse in your will. You don?t need a marriage license to remind you of that.
Be sure the pastor or whoever conducts your wedding leaves out the phrase, "by the power vested in me by the state..." You could have them skip that and go to the part that says, "I now pronounce you man and wife" or whatever you want this person to say to represent the two of you.
Don?t let people say or think that your marriage is not real just because you don?t have a certificate filed away in a cabinet at the probate courthouse. You don?t have to let people refer to you as a ?common-law? married couple either. Common Law means: a rule of being or of conduct, established by an authority able to enforce its will; a controlling regulation.
This is not an insult to couples that do have marriage licenses. Great people are always being pulled into government programs. The marriage license is a completely separate entity from all of which makes your marriage real in the first place. Your marriage license doesn?t defeat whether or not your actual marriage commitment is real.
After you go all out with your real wedding ceremony, refer to your spouse as your wife or husband always, and feel good about the fact that it's real, not a government institution.
Originally posted by: JDavid
