Why am I still single? Dunno. Too picky, wrong choices, hard to meet men in thirties when your girlfriends are all married & home with their kids... who knows. I do know I am real serious about waiting till I am sure. I am dating, but nothing has really stuck in a while.
Dating ex-kids-kids. Now there's a topic for therapy! With Joel. I think it was so deeply tied into "losing him" b/c of "them" a decade before - and it sent me down a road I maybe needed to go to tie up some unfinished stuff. It certainly is a choice I regret. With Craig, that was pure optomism - probably for both of us - at the time, thinking it all seemed to make sense & seeing what we wanted to see in each other. We really are not compatible. I am certainly quite OVER the dating ex-kid-kids. More deeply, I think those choices when I was younger had a lot to do with the closeness I felt to those I went thru that with - and how hard its been since to feel 100% "gotten" by men I've men. Its all tied up in the insanity of the long lasting effects of good ole KIDS, I can assure you that.
Thanks for asking & the kind words.
PS - If you saw where I live now - in nowheresville PA (a career move) - you would wonder much less how I could have trouble meeting men!!!! :wink: