On 2004-01-27 08:33:00, Anonymous wrote:
"There is a point where children are children and must be made to do the right thing. If a child rebels, then the parents should give it back, ten-fold, as the bible says."
I suppose that would make a warped kind of sense if I were a religious fanatic, but since I'm not....
You make two year olds share their toys. You make preteens and young teens clean up after themselves and do chores around the house.
When a late teen rebels, you ground them and take away priveleges. You do it proportionally to the problem (how come you jihad johnnies never read the verse "fathers provoke not thy children to wrath"?).
If the teen persistently breaks grounding and won't obey the rules of the house in ways that break the law or damage property or threaten violence, you give him/her a set time to find somewhere else to live and move out *or* you will ship him/her to military school or a restrictive boarding school---the check in the loop is that if you are just nuts, there *will* be friends, neighbors, or family willing to take the kid in.
A teen is not a little kid, a teen is a young adult, who should only have to obey his/her parents' rules because he/she lives under their roof. If he/she can live under someone else's roof in harmony with that someone's rules, then the parents have no right to "force" the teen to do whatever it is the parents want.
Teens are not fully kids, they're not fully adult---they're at the in-between stage and rebellion is developmentally built-in to get the teens to become independent adults and leave the nest, rather than staying under the thumb of their human and fallible parents forever.
It is, frankly, not surprising at all that a disproportionate number of teens who can no longer abide their parents' rule---and who have mature adults who would be willing to take the teen in while he/she gets a job and finds his feet---are the kids of jihad johnnies like you.
The kid is not insane enough to be a religious fanatic like the parents, and the parents personally can't handle that the kid's growing and developing mature judgement says, "Hey, you guys are a couple of real nutcases about your religion!"
A lot of people believe their religion says they have the right to do terrible things to other people who won't do what they say---so you're hardly alone in that particular belief.
Hell, a pack of people just like you flew some planes into some buildings not too many years ago.
So you're not alone in your beliefs, I guess.
Doesn't mean the rest of us have to allow you to forcibly inflict them on other people---and children are people, too.