Send Postcards to Brendan

[Anonymous]

I have just read everything posted under "Send Postcards to Brendan".  Brendan does have a last name, Spelman, and lives in Gainesville, Florida.  He is/was a student at my private school for 9th, 10th, 11th and 1 week of his senior year.  In April, because of a deteriorating home life, my husband and I were asked to provide our home for Brendan to live. He lived with us until the end of the school year. My take on the negative, personal attacks on Brendan's character, is that since you don't know him, you are having "fun" at his expense.  He was not kidnapped, his parents paid for an escort service to pick him up without informing him. He CAN not walk away- can't figure out where that comes from. DRA?  He was picked up  in the parking lot of his psychiatrist, his aunt was driving him there, without her (both the aunt and the psychiatrist) knowledge either.  When the psychiatrist asked the mother, who showed up to make sure Brendan was picked up, why she had not discussed this decision with her, Brendan's mother said "I am not here to explain myself." Then his mother walked out of the psychiatrist's office.  The only reason we can come up with, for this behavior on the parents part, is their need to have complete control over Brendan and remove him from the family who provided him with a safe place to live and thrive ( at all times his parents knew where he was, and Brendan kept in constant contact with his aunt: how do I know, I was there). They had been unsuccessful trying to get him to return home or live with any family members.  His treatment at home was very abusive, both verbally and mentally. We became aware of this while he was living with us, and several parents (including his family members) have come forth to substantiate the parental abuse. I filed a report of child abuse with DCF in both Utah and Florida.  Florida will/can not do anything because Brendan is in Utah.  Utah will/can not do anything because the abuse took place in Florida.  I have not exhausted my legal options yet.  Hopefully, this will clear up some of the misinformation about Brendan and his situation.

Thank you Twiggins for giving us a candid update and clearing up the story about Brendon.  I have a few questions:
Are you one of his teachers?  And who asked you to take Brendon in to live with you?  Is this a private school that you and your husband run yourself?  Do you have any contact with Brendon’s parents?

I am glad that you cleared up that he wasn’t kidnapped.  The stories take on an animation of their own here on fornits and escalate into kids being water boarded, placed in isolation and abused at DRA and various other schools and programs, being called detainees, prisons and gulags. Almost like a Dungeons and dragons appeal.  So sifting through the posts to find the truth can be a challenge sometimes as you have just experienced.

I hope you can return again and keep us updated.

No, I am one of the administer.  My husband has taught Brendan, and he is the high school counselor, so he has worked with Brendan and his parents in this roll.  When my husband became aware of issues in Brendan's family life  he offered to let Brendan stay with us for a cool off period.  His mother spoke to her therapist about this offer, and she called me and said the therapist thought that our home was the best for him, not his grandmother or aunt. I don't really understand how the therapist could/would recommend us, but Brendan's mother told me she did.  I told her that we would gladly help out- we have had quite a few students (all teenagers) stay with us from time to time. His aunt drove him over to our house. The private school was started by four of us in 1993 (my husband, myself, 2 long-time friends).  My husband has been in the education field for 37 years- public system for 22 and then our school.  He is also an adjunct professor at the University of Florida in the College of Eduction. We remained in contact with his mother while he lived at our house, mostly my husband.  When he went to live with another family from our school, there was no more contact with his parents, but a lot with his aunt.  I did go by his house the day he was "abducted against his will", and asked his mother, "Where is Brendan?"  Her reply was, "Get out of my house."  So I left, and, no, with my goal of Bring Brendan Home, I probably will have no more contact with his immediate family. Think I answered all of your questions.  Thank you for your real concern.

By the way, what is up with the confirmation code?  It has taken me up to ten times to get it correct!

[Anonymous]

FYI- while my husband was teaching and an administrator with the Alachua County School System, I was homeschooling my three daughters. Also, I am a former La Leche League Leader.  You probably won't know what that is- a national group to help new mothers breastfeed.  I am hardly a threat to anyone!

[Anonymous]

LOL. That’s the Director of GAO’s education workforce and income security and child services saying that there are likely to be WAY more deaths in “residential programs” than have been identified, but if that’s the spin you want to put on it go ahead.


Again, maybe if you were more interested in reality than in spin, John D reuben, your son would not have killed himself.
Instead you imprisoned him in SUWS wilderness and Academy at Swift River, and then killed himself. Your son is dead because of you. Whoops!

Thanks I left a few out:

Brainwashing = high school

Torture = no iPod or texting

Survivors = those who failed to finish or never applied themselves.

Youre welcome. You left out one more:
Michael Joshua Reuben = your dead son / marketing tool.

[Anonymous]

I have just read everything posted under "Send Postcards to Brendan".  Brendan does have a last name, Spelman, and lives in Gainesville, Florida.  He is/was a student at my private school for 9th, 10th, 11th and 1 week of his senior year.  In April, because of a deteriorating home life, my husband and I were asked to provide our home for Brendan to live. He lived with us until the end of the school year. My take on the negative, personal attacks on Brendan's character, is that since you don't know him, you are having "fun" at his expense.  He was not kidnapped, his parents paid for an escort service to pick him up without informing him. He CAN not walk away- can't figure out where that comes from. DRA?  He was picked up  in the parking lot of his psychiatrist, his aunt was driving him there, without her (both the aunt and the psychiatrist) knowledge either.  When the psychiatrist asked the mother, who showed up to make sure Brendan was picked up, why she had not discussed this decision with her, Brendan's mother said "I am not here to explain myself." Then his mother walked out of the psychiatrist's office.  The only reason we can come up with, for this behavior on the parents part, is their need to have complete control over Brendan and remove him from the family who provided him with a safe place to live and thrive ( at all times his parents knew where he was, and Brendan kept in constant contact with his aunt: how do I know, I was there). They had been unsuccessful trying to get him to return home or live with any family members.  His treatment at home was very abusive, both verbally and mentally. We became aware of this while he was living with us, and several parents (including his family members) have come forth to substantiate the parental abuse. I filed a report of child abuse with DCF in both Utah and Florida.  Florida will/can not do anything because Brendan is in Utah.  Utah will/can not do anything because the abuse took place in Florida.  I have not exhausted my legal options yet.  Hopefully, this will clear up some of the misinformation about Brendan and his situation.

Thank you Twiggins for giving us a candid update and clearing up the story about Brendon.  I have a few questions:
Are you one of his teachers?  And who asked you to take Brendon in to live with you?  Is this a private school that you and your husband run yourself?  Do you have any contact with Brendon’s parents?

I am glad that you cleared up that he wasn’t kidnapped.  The stories take on an animation of their own here on fornits and escalate into kids being water boarded, placed in isolation and abused at DRA and various other schools and programs, being called detainees, prisons and gulags. Almost like a Dungeons and dragons appeal.  So sifting through the posts to find the truth can be a challenge sometimes as you have just experienced.

I hope you can return again and keep us updated.

No, I am one of the administer.  My husband has taught Brendan, and he is the high school counselor, so he has worked with Brendan and his parents in this roll.  When my husband became aware of issues in Brendan's family life  he offered to let Brendan stay with us for a cool off period.  His mother spoke to her therapist about this offer, and she called me and said the therapist thought that our home was the best for him, not his grandmother or aunt. I don't really understand how the therapist could/would recommend us, but Brendan's mother told me she did.  I told her that we would gladly help out- we have had quite a few students (all teenagers) stay with us from time to time. His aunt drove him over to our house. The private school was started by four of us in 1993 (my husband, myself, 2 long-time friends).  My husband has been in the education field for 37 years- public system for 22 and then our school.  He is also an adjunct professor at the University of Florida in the College of Eduction. We remained in contact with his mother while he lived at our house, mostly my husband.  When he went to live with another family from our school, there was no more contact with his parents, but a lot with his aunt.  I did go by his house the day he was "abducted against his will", and asked his mother, "Where is Brendan?"  Her reply was, "Get out of my house."  So I left, and, no, with my goal of Bring Brendan Home, I probably will have no more contact with his immediate family. Think I answered all of your questions.  Thank you for your real concern.

By the way, what is up with the confirmation code?  It has taken me up to ten times to get it correct!

 Watch out. you are texting to infamous fornits troll, "the who." Do a search on his name. His kid killed himself after being imprisoned at Academy at Swift river and SUWS wilderness then he started a business referring people to the cultic organization aspen education group (that runs ASR and SUWS).  In his free time, he harasses victims of torture that post on fornits.

viewtopic.php?f=48&t=27903&start=0

[Anonymous]

FYI- while my husband was teaching and an administrator with the Alachua County School System, I was homeschooling my three daughters. Also, I am a former La Leche League Leader.  You probably won't know what that is- a national group to help new mothers breastfeed.  I am hardly a threat to anyone!

Maybe not, but we are.

Look, Twiggins? Have you actually been *reading* this board? We have people here minimizing the effects of abuse on children, and it's quite possible that one of them is Brendan's mother. We have other people here who would gleefully sacrifice themselves for a good chance at revenge. Lawyers, morons, survivors (who are getting outnumbered or at least out-posted) and hatred lords all have their presence on Fornits.

This is what these people are. These are the people his mother sent them to. This is the kind of insane shit he's been exposed to for the past months. And now that you've posted the boy's last name, we thank you for it, as we're going to hunt the bitch down.

Welcome to the real world.

[Whooter]

 Watch out. you are texting to infamous fornits troll, "the who." Do a search on his name. His kid killed himself after being imprisoned at Academy at Swift river and SUWS wilderness then he started a business referring people to the cultic organization aspen education group (that runs ASR and SUWS).  In his free time, he harasses victims of torture that post on fornits.

http://fornits.com/phpbb/viewtopic.php? ... 03&start=0

I forgot to mention that he killed most of his neighbors and is presently being investigated for being involved in 911 attacks in New York.  So you shouldnt listen to him.

[Anonymous]

Is she one of these? (This of course asserts that mother and son share the same last name and that she actually has a Gainesville address.)

http://www.ussearch.com/consumer/previe ... ainesville

This kind of detective work is kinda what some of us do. If you could help us out with some more information about this woman and how we might get in contact with her, it'd be a great help.

[Anonymous]

Is she one of these? (This of course asserts that mother and son share the same last name and that she actually has a Gainesville address.)

http://www.ussearch.com/consumer/previe ... ainesville

This kind of detective work is kinda what some of us do. If you could help us out with some more information about this woman and how we might get in contact with her, it'd be a great help.

[Antigen]

Shut up, Whooter! If I want parenting advice I'll ask a nun.

[Anonymous]

FYI- while my husband was teaching and an administrator with the Alachua County School System, I was homeschooling my three daughters. Also, I am a former La Leche League Leader.  You probably won't know what that is- a national group to help new mothers breastfeed.  I am hardly a threat to anyone!

Maybe not, but we are.

Look, Twiggins? Have you actually been *reading* this board? We have people here minimizing the effects of abuse on children, and it's quite possible that one of them is Brendan's mother. We have other people here who would gleefully sacrifice themselves for a good chance at revenge. Lawyers, morons, survivors (who are getting outnumbered or at least out-posted) and hatred lords all have their presence on Fornits.

This is what these people are. These are the people his mother sent them to. This is the kind of insane shit he's been exposed to for the past months. And now that you've posted the boy's last name, we thank you for it, as we're going to hunt the bitch down.

Welcome to the real world.

twiggens, dont be scared off. No one is getting 'hunted down.'  And, guest, as you surely know, B's last name was already known.

[Anonymous]

Shut up, Whooter! If I want parenting advice I'll ask a nun.

You know, Ginger, there *is* a time when even an unmoderated forum can start banning spammers by IP address.

That time was a couple of days ago. Particularly in the shoutbox.

[Anonymous]

FYI- while my husband was teaching and an administrator with the Alachua County School System, I was homeschooling my three daughters. Also, I am a former La Leche League Leader.  You probably won't know what that is- a national group to help new mothers breastfeed.  I am hardly a threat to anyone!

Maybe not, but we are.

Look, Twiggins? Have you actually been *reading* this board? We have people here minimizing the effects of abuse on children, and it's quite possible that one of them is Brendan's mother. We have other people here who would gleefully sacrifice themselves for a good chance at revenge. Lawyers, morons, survivors (who are getting outnumbered or at least out-posted) and hatred lords all have their presence on Fornits.

This is what these people are. These are the people his mother sent them to. This is the kind of insane shit he's been exposed to for the past months. And now that you've posted the boy's last name, we thank you for it, as we're going to hunt the bitch down.

Welcome to the real world.

Redefine "we" to include your agent provocateur self and your entirely fictional army of crazies.

Twiggins.  The entire purpose of the above post was to scare you off.  One tactic of some program supporters is to impersonate the "anti-program" side and act crazy.

[Anonymous]

FYI- while my husband was teaching and an administrator with the Alachua County School System, I was homeschooling my three daughters. Also, I am a former La Leche League Leader.  You probably won't know what that is- a national group to help new mothers breastfeed.  I am hardly a threat to anyone!

Maybe not, but we are.

Look, Twiggins? Have you actually been *reading* this board? We have people here minimizing the effects of abuse on children, and it's quite possible that one of them is Brendan's mother. We have other people here who would gleefully sacrifice themselves for a good chance at revenge. Lawyers, morons, survivors (who are getting outnumbered or at least out-posted) and hatred lords all have their presence on Fornits.

This is what these people are. These are the people his mother sent them to. This is the kind of insane shit he's been exposed to for the past months. And now that you've posted the boy's last name, we thank you for it, as we're going to hunt the bitch down.

Welcome to the real world.[/quote

I guess my question for you is "Have you actually been "reading this board?"  This thread, Send Postcards to Brendan, is about sending Brendan postcards, his current address with his full name was posted earlier on fornits, and not by me.
As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse/incest ( I am almost 60 now), I don't need a lecture of the effects of abuse on children.  I have lived that life. Ask my husband, my grown daughters, and my close friends- I know deep and personal how hard it is to live a life of "my" making, not a life reacting to my childhood experiences.

[psy]

Just posted on The facebook group:

Hi Everyone - I'm the mom that provided a safe home to Brendan for four months before he was taken. Thanks to all who have posted their concern.

Thought you all would like to know that on Saturday we had an airplane fly over DRA for an hour with a banner message for Brendan. This was the only way we could think to get a message to him that we 'love him and rally for him'.

One of my gravest concerns about DRA is the lack of communication its students are allowed, and the fact that this communication is censored. If DRA's program is upstanding and successful, they should be willing to allow their students open communication. Period.

Sad to think in our country it takes hiring an airplane to get a message to a loved one in a facility where he is prevented from exercising his civil rights.

Brendan is such a great kid; we've come to know him very well, and will work tirelessly to give him the opportunity to have his voice be heard in this serious situation.

That's one way to get the job done.  Wow.  Bravo.

[psy]

we had an airplane fly over DRA for an hour with a banner message for Brendan

I had an airplane fly over North Korea to spy on their nuclear missile sites.  The banner message said, "Shut down your nuclear missile sites or the US will bomb you."

Point taken, but If you've ever been in a program you'd know that a good part of breaking a person down -- eroding their will, is by removing hope and convincing a person that the program is the only way.  If Brendan got that message, he now knows that there are others on the outside who support him and will be there when he turns 18.  He now knows that there is one more way out.