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drug rehab for 18 yr old????

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--- Quote from: "Guest" ---We are all coerced in our daily lives. We don't speed in fear of traffic tickets. We don't skip work in fear of losing our job. We don't kill in fear of jail. Coercion is different than force, and is a part of our daily lives.
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Wow! This is very telling of your view of the world and your place in it. I speed sometimes if I feel comfortable driving faster than the posted limit. Even if I do worry that a cop might catch me at it, sometimes I'll do it anyway cause I'd rather suffer the consequences of getting busted than live with the knowledge that I'm a coward, doing stupid things for fear of some bully punishing me. I'll go slower than the posted limit, too, depending on conditions. I don't skip work without good cause because I take pride in my work  and respect my coworkers. My employers know that they can count on me to cover someone else's need for time off and that if I call off there's a damned good reason. They usually don't even ask what that reason is. If fear of jail is the only thing keeping you from killing somebody you're one sick muther, friend!

Now, all that aside, to the OP, the simple answer to your question is "I don't know". I don't know your kid or his situation, what's troubling him or even whether he's got any significant problems or if you're just overly anxious. I can't tell from here which is more accurate an assessment. I can tell you you're asking the wrong people. You should be asking your own elders and most trusted advisors and those who know your son and who care about him. But mostly you should be asking him what's best to do to resolve this conflict.

There's a persistent notion in our society that there's a fix for everything and that every little problem, whether real or imagined, must be fixed. If it were a roomie or something acting like this, the answer would be simple, boot the bum out and forget about them. But this is your son. Even if he does move out, he'll still be your son. Even when he's 40 if he's in some trouble he'll still be your son and you'll still probably want to do whatever you can to help. Sometimes that means just listening and not getting involved.

When I was in my mid 20's my daughter  reached the age where she discovered that she could rebel against me. And she had fun doing it too! She was still too young to understand that her pranks were causing the whole family problems so it was just fun for her to frustrate the hell out of me. I told my dad what was going on and asked him when this phase passes. He said "Oh, when they're around 35". That made me laugh, which actually did help. I know, far less serious issue than what you're describing. But even when my daughter got older and our issues became far, far more serious, that has always come back to me and helped put things in perspective. Things have a way of working themselves out. Remember that and try not to let fear make you do anything desperate or irreversible.

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