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Adult Children Living At Home

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BuzzKill:

--- Quote --- in some parts of europe people stay at home till they marry even when they have the financial means to live away from home. I can remember goign to Italy with a friend who had family there and her 27 year old male cousin still lived in the family home. This was not considered at all unusual.
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On a related note:

When I pulled my son from Dundee, it was set up so that he was traveling with one of the Costa Rican family reps. He went home with the guy the night before the flight out, and got to go grocery shopping with him, meet his family an all. I had the impression it was a good time. Altho, I was told the Costa Ricans are scary to be in a car with. Not a lot of road rules there, apparently.

Anyway, my son was talking about his future plans, which included his own place to live. This guy told him young Americans were foolish about that. They all want their own place. If they were smart, they would do like the Costa Ricans do - stay at home - work hard - save their money instead of struggling to pay all the cost associated with their own place - and someday inherite the family home - with all that money saved - and they would have a great life.

He and I both had a laugh about it. It does of course, make a lot of sense. But for some reason, American families just don't work this way. Maybe the more relaxed, laid back attitude of Latin America's (and Europeans) help them pull this off.

Oz girl:
I can understand why western parents look forward to an empty nest. i dont know how i would feel about doing laundry for a 30 yr old. With many european cultures it evens out because grandparents live with the family so the adult child's turn to be forking out does come. But the idea that you would spend 50 k to punish your 20 yr old. just nuts!

M_Hilton:

--- Quote from: "psy" ---
--- Quote from: ""Mummie"" ---Yes, some of these programs do very well, often these programs have transitional programs past 18 which they try and tell you your child still needs, which, don't fool yourself, the programs will try and sell you are voluntary, but they are only voluntary so long as the parents threaten the streets or the program.  Not much of an offer is it.
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EXACTLY what happened with me.  It was the streets of Washington DC with no money or the "Boarding School".
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thing is now some of these kids COULDNT GET A JOB IF THEY WANTED TO
and thanks to benchmark my employment history has HUGE gaps in it i cant get jobs now and am finely giving up and getting SSI and i really dont like the idea

try another castle:
I still snicker at the term "adult children"

We really do need to think of a better term than "children" to refer to one's offspring after they grow up.

Anonymous:
in a word

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