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Oz girl:
I would think that a parent who is concerned that their young adult kid is not contributing educationally or financially would be reluctant to shell out this sort of cash. perhaps the marketing will backfire

psy:

--- Quote from: ""Oz girl"" ---I would think that a parent who is concerned that their young adult kid is not contributing educationally or financially would be reluctant to shell out this sort of cash. perhaps the marketing will backfire
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Nah...  This has been their website all along pretty much.  They basically advertise to everybody, not just "troubled" teens... (though the parents will believe they are troubled after Benchmark finishes with them).

For some reason, it works.  They claim to offer salvation from everything.  They'll claim a 95% sucess rate on the phone, they'll say you can write your girlfriend, they'll say all sorts of things.  The only thing people wonder about coming is the 30 day communication thing.  Soon you figure out why they won't let you talk to your parents.  Soon you'll be brought up on trumped up charges based on rumor and forced to admit (unless you want the punishment to get worse) to things you didn't do.  You'll learn that reporting on others isn't snitching on them, it's helping them follow their program, withough which, they'll die.  You see the optimistic AWOLs leave for the road only to see them come back later after realizing with not resources you're pretty much screwed (teaching everybody else they can't make it).  We were told that if we could make it on our own we wouldn't be there.  Or you get awols who have been so programeed to believe they are irrecoverable addicts (and failures since they didn't work the program) they immediately descend into drugs, often far worse (as they were told) than before the "relapse" if they were even doing drugs before Benchmark....

Mummie:
Yes, some of these programs do very well, often these programs have transitional programs past 18 which they try and tell you your child still needs, which, don't fool yourself, the programs will try and sell you are voluntary, but they are only voluntary so long as the parents threaten the streets or the program.  Not much of an offer is it.

 :flame: I am so pissed off right now, my son just told me one of his friends, over 18, was just sent to CinHill or it was off to the streets.  This kid does NOT belong there, he's a total mental case, and this place is going to fuck him up, (excuse the language, but I am pissed), even more.

psy:

--- Quote from: ""Mummie"" ---Yes, some of these programs do very well, often these programs have transitional programs past 18 which they try and tell you your child still needs, which, don't fool yourself, the programs will try and sell you are voluntary, but they are only voluntary so long as the parents threaten the streets or the program.  Not much of an offer is it.
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EXACTLY what happened with me.  It was the streets of Washington DC with no money or the "Boarding School".

Oz girl:
its funny because over here it is pretty common for kids to stay at home while they are at college as it is the norm to go to university in your home state. Of course if you were 20 and permanently neither working or studying the average parent would be saying get a job or move out. A lot of young people also spend their university years or early 20s moving in and out of home before they settle down with their first proper adult career job. it was also pretty routine in my family to do a stint in a siblings attick. You got the comfort of a nicely appointed  home, but without your mum nagging you about how much you drank the night before. The sibling got someone with enough time on their hands to pick their kids up from school and throw a load of washing on. Everybody won.
 
in some parts of europe people stay at home till they marry even when they have the financial means to live away from home. I can remember goign to Italy with a friend who had family there and her 27 year old male cousin still lived in the family home. This was not considered at all unusual. Perhaps parents considering these young adult schools should be encouraged to look abroad in determining whether their kid is that off track

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