Catherine
I completely allign with what you say. Those who said someone's preventable death is a "there are a no accidents statement" angers me.
My qualifications, making the same mistakes, and trying to learn from them. Other than that, warning other parents and friends from making the same mistakes as I have, whenever I can.
What really sucks is, some of my friends are still pro-wwasp, and other's aren't, but they won't admit it within our group. But I get to keep my eyes and ears open, while at the same time getting as much help as I could possibly get, because they all have some sort of assistance/experiences that can benefit me and my children.
It's been a difficult time, a tough road, not as tough as yours, and I am so sorry for your loss. when I think about losing my children, or have nighmares about it, it is the most horrific thing I think I would ever have to go through, and frankly, I don't think I would make it through it.
While I am not an advocate, or so-called, or whatever, I do hope that by my stepping up I have made a difference and maybe saved some more lives. It's cost me some friendships, however, if that's the case, they never where my friends, where they? Or as some people would say, "I am not here to make friends".
My wish and prayers for you are to hopefully find comfort and peace, however that looks to you.
Hugs,