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« Reply #60 on: March 28, 2007, 03:53:09 PM »
Emancipation. Dunno why I didn't think of it. Even if it's unlikely to go through, just filing a petition may place him in a legal position that would prevent anybody from taking him out of the local court's jurisdiction, or at least raise the attention of the judge of they did. As I recall, it only requires an address, proof of employment and a reasonable plan for self support.
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« Reply #61 on: March 28, 2007, 03:55:08 PM »
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But the problem is u can track someone through myspaceand he'll know that and not want ot risk that. SO if u contact him through there just give him a "message"- like u r there 4 him wont send him to program or deceive him to get him to appear. That u r totally up front & wont make him do anything he doesnt want to do

When u say contact him is there away to do this without anyone else except him knowing? [/quote]
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« Reply #62 on: March 28, 2007, 04:02:00 PM »
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Aside from the parents' word, how do you know he ran and was not snatched?

I believe they wouldn't lie to me and that I could tell by the tone of their voice if they were.I also saw him logged into his my space account today.  Dam I wish I new how to use myspace I only know how to lurk there.  

Careful there. Could be the rents logged on as him.

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I'd try and contact some of his friends if I were in your shoes. Face to face so they know you're sincere and what you're asking for;

Great idea, i'll be in that area tomorrow so I will.I wish I could get over there tonite but I just can't
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That got my daughter to call home one time when I was just wrecked w/ worry. Turned out to be an actual, adult, serious business gang thug who sat her down and gave her a heart to heart. I went asking after her at a gas station where she and her friends hung out. I just told the guy the truth, I just want my little girl to step away from the crazy people. I guess I wasn't half the psychotic bitch the little shits had told everybody I was and this guy was starting to grow up and out of all the glory and excitement of the thing. Probably had kids of his own. Anyway, good luck with that.

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any thoughts on calling the police assuming he hasn't been snatched?

None fit for expression in polite company. I can tell you a little more if you want to register a username and PM me.

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Thanks for hanging in here with me :D


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« Reply #63 on: March 28, 2007, 04:03:19 PM »
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Emancipation. Dunno why I didn't think of it. Even if it's unlikely to go through, just filing a petition may place him in a legal position that would prevent anybody from taking him out of the local court's jurisdiction, or at least raise the attention of the judge of they did. As I recall reasonable plan for self support.


Not just a reasonable plan but documented proof that you can support yourself.

And not to be used by teenagers who are unhappy with their parents.

But the court jurisdiction might have some possibilities, I'll check into that, Thanks
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« Reply #64 on: March 28, 2007, 04:25:18 PM »
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You've got mail
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« Reply #65 on: March 28, 2007, 04:40:11 PM »
Yes emancipation may be hard to get immediately, but it puts everyone  in a position where equal is squaring of against another equal. He are no longer a peice of property and psychologically He is not a helpless child. He is not a fugitive in a dark underworld


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myspace works like email.
you send email through myspace.
when i said "track him through myspace" meant through IP numbers which youd have to do through a child hunter or the police.

register on myspace
find his page
click beneath his picture where it says "send message"
send him an email
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« Reply #66 on: March 28, 2007, 04:47:45 PM »
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register on myspace
find his page
click beneath his picture where it says "send message"
send him an email


I feel like an idiot for not knowing this   :D Thank you :D
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« Reply #67 on: March 28, 2007, 04:57:17 PM »
ypu welcome
if you have any other questions about how to use it Im happy to finnally have more computer knowledge than someone else :P

so/ lets hope this goes well
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« Reply #68 on: March 29, 2007, 06:44:05 PM »
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exhausted,

Thanks for sharing your story, and it's great advice!
 I'm sure it was a very difficult thing to do and I'm glad to hear it's turning around for you and your family.

Would you mind clarifying a few details for me?

 "letting them know I didn't intend to screw out at them, but armed them with all the information i could muster, I gave them their weapons, then I let them out to survive"

What kind of information and weapons?

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Don't think it's easy, it isn't, it's far from it

One thing you have to understand is you are taking on aot here, this kid is reay screwed up and feels he is going to loose 'street cred' if he cleans his act up, its one of the hardest things for a teen to do, but it's achievable, my 13 & 14 year old have done it

The informatin and weapons i gave them were stuff like talking about drugs, safe sex, living rough and the dangers, all i could do for them was to give them all the information they needed to help them to make their decisions, the rest was up to them, I guess when i talk of weapons, I really meant tools (Not guns geek) that wasn't aimed at you but the replyee on that! Meaning life skills, tools to help them work out that they do have choices that no one else could make for them, good or bad, their choices would lead to how their lives turned out, thnakfully they're making better and better choices every day as once they got into that pattern, they found they were enjoying life at home and outside.

The recent developments are a concern, this lad realy is runnign scared, he needs to know he can survive al of this and still turn out as an okay kind of person, he may not be bale to do this by living with you, I'd agree that letting him know you will do whatever it takes to help him is a good idea, but it may mean you helping him find a safe haven away from you, but with the knowledge that you are not going to let anyone hurt him in any way whatever, you're only a phone call away

Of course you're worried where he is, but calling the police is going to take him home and then straight into a program, it'll be another reason to send him in that hes caused grief to his parents again, he'll survive, honest, all he needs from you is the knowledge that he can pick up the phone and you'll help.....pease let us know how you get on

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« Reply #69 on: March 29, 2007, 09:10:50 PM »
What kind of trouble are you having logging in? First course, delete your cookies (or at least the fornits cookies) If that doesn't clear it up, please contact us at wwf@fornits.com or post to the web forum hosting forum.
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« Reply #70 on: March 30, 2007, 02:33:36 AM »
edit: irrelevant after reading entire thread
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« Reply #71 on: March 30, 2007, 04:42:21 PM »
Quick update,

Sorry I don't have time for more than that right now.
I spoke to him on the phone today  :D  and he sounded good.
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« Reply #72 on: March 30, 2007, 07:02:08 PM »
Good to hear
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« Reply #73 on: March 31, 2007, 08:20:21 PM »
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What kind of trouble are you having logging in? First course, delete your cookies (or at least the fornits cookies) If that doesn't clear it up, please contact us at wwf@fornits.com or post to the web forum hosting forum.
Have done, thanks  :D
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« Reply #74 on: April 06, 2007, 07:59:10 PM »
I have now seen him with my own eyes so I can 100% say that he is not back at TBS. :D
Of course he ‘s lost 20LBS. and got strep throat but basically he seems OK.  He’s living at one of his friend’s house and I feel better knowing that he’s not sleeping on the streets.  

Thank you to all of you who hung in there with me and gave me advice and helped me through a really difficult time, it was very much appreciated.



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