Antigen's Ghost
?You never, ever get over having your very mind violated and personality fundamentally rearranged. This is NOT the lessor of two evils we're talking about. It's more evil than you care to imagine.?
This statement alone is very powerful and why I know I need to continue to do what I can to keep him home!!
?You guys just don't seem to understand the gravity of what we all are trying to tell you?
I fully understand the gravity of what we all are trying to tell me - that?s why I fought for eight months to bring him home!
I have to walk a fine line in this situation because I am to some degree being
blamed for his lack of success(not the best choice of words) by both him and his parents for the first nine months he was gone. And I have already been told that if they send him back that I will be allowed NO contact.
?Wouldn't matter cause you haven't got his respect?.
How do I gain his respect quickly?
?Just put yourself in his shoes and see what the world looks like from there.?
I?m trying to put myself in his shoes and I can?t understand why he won?t follow a few simple rules. 1. Get your GED(it would only take about 2 months) 2. Be respectful to people 3. Clean up your own mess when you make it. 4- Be home on time 5-Stay off drugs. He did get a job though.
?If all the adults in his life are sending him the message that his brain could use a little more washing then I don't blame him for being shitty to the whole lot of you.?
Perfectly said. I?m sure that?s a big part of where his head is at ? unfortunately his parents aren?t willing to put up with it. I was hoping to convince him that it would be much easier to follow the rules for the next 9 months until he turns eighteen then it would be to go back to a TBS. Maybe I?m wrong in my thinking but it just seems like the logical choice and that it shouldn?t be that hard. If you feel that I?m wrong in my thinking PLEASE make suggestions.
?(though I suspect the term as used here is an expansive, emotional ploy to describe taking the rents' car out w/o permission)?
You are correct but he doesn?t have a drivers license and the parents are very concerned about their liability if something happens.
?Well, if you came to my house on the weekend to observe my behavior, I'd be pretty shitty to you too.?
FWIW, I didn?t just go there just to see his behavior, we had a family function going on.
I hope this makes sense to you and that you will continue with your input as it has been extremely helpful to me.
"New posters don't use words like 'programmies', or bother using text formatting... the fake parent troll got boring a year ago. NExt please.. (or at least get better at it)"
I spent 8 months reading Fornits, how do you think I new these programs were so terrible.