From the thread next door:
Yes, I view the Moral inventory as abusive, b/c for one, "the program" took basica AA principals and twisted them into some kind of entangled neuroses crisis on a daily basis. So therefore, having to then write out " private confessions" over and over again against ones will is inherintly abusive. It wasn't so much the above that made me feel it was completely abusive. It was more that the above combined with having to "go over" those M.I.'s with complete strangers, who then were free to criticize them and basically hold a "mini rap" at the foster home, like they were a staff member. Then if the oldcomer didnt act that way towards you, they then ran the risk of being stood up in group and being "confronted" with being "soft" with newcomers....funny how we never saw anyone get stood up for being "hard" with newcomers isn't now?
That says a great deal right there.
anyway, it is all relative, the whole place, idealogy, the rules, the dogma, the M.I.'s the rational therapy shit, the raps, no privacy, ....etc.... it is and was all a part of "the game".
-warm regards,
-DP
It certainly makes since why they had the whole family write MIs. Siblings had to write them nightly I'd wait til Friday night after open meeting before Saturday sibling rap and write all 7. That was fuckin hard has hell LOL They reviewed them on Saturday though so I had no choice and I always put it off cuz I hated it so!
I threw all mine away but i have some of my moms. Really they were all very negative about her, how she needed to do better at this and that etc. Most of it's total bull shit. I think they had the parents so immersed in trying to work through their "problems" it's no wonder they were clueless about most other things. At least with my mom, they kept her busy to. Course with steve on first phase the whole time what choice did they have, god forbid she start pondering why he'd been in there so long.
She was on the fund raising committee, taught parents to be rap leaders, did hair cuts, was on the speaker bureau, volunteered to work the front desk. She basically lived and breathed straight, for some reason doesn't "recall" never being home when we were in straight. She was never there. Home cooked meals because a thing of the past lol. Of course once they made sure my dad was gone what else was she going to do. Wow a couple revelations just now, I really could do without some for a few days actually. Do any of you go through phases like that? Not much for awhile and then you just keep gettin either memories or info or revelations if you will to the point where you want to PUKE? lol I'm there, ready to lose my cookies, overloaded if you will. Anyway just putting down what was on my mind as I read that post.
Peace,
kelly aka the E to the B
::dove::
and to the guest with the multiple personalities.. it was me, yes me. I deleted your posts and will continue to do so, so don't f' w/ me man! :evil: :flame: :evil:
