I Have A Troubled Son. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Milk has suggested the same thing before. I agree. It is fucked up... but how open do you think his father is to taking your suggestions, with a name like that. Hmm? If this father is upset about his kid smoking Ganja, Ganja.

He probably didn't really think twice about it until you so thoughtfully pointed it out.  :roll:

Oh i noticed it, Bob Marley.

If the dad is worth his salt he will seek advice from people in the know. That means people who smoked pot when they were teens! With a name like Ganja it should be even more obvious to parents that, hey, here's a poster who knows about smoking pot. Or they can ask someone who never smoked pot as a teen... what makes more sense to you?

[Ganja]

By the way>>> I call Troll and this entire thread.

:tup:

[Ganja]

Milk has suggested the same thing before. I agree. It is fucked up... but how open do you think his father is to taking your suggestions, with a name like that. Hmm? If this father is upset about his kid smoking Ganja, Ganja.

He probably didn't really think twice about it until you so thoughtfully pointed it out.  :roll:

Oh i noticed it, Bob Marley.

 :rofl:  :lol:  8-)

[Dad Trying]

Really please take this next line personally.

It is in regards to his loser friends comment.


But honestly go fuck yourself.

You are 100 percent your child's problem. Get your head out of your ass. Stop beating your son into submission, and start cherishing the things he is good at. You after all taught him to act the way he does, now start using positive praise to bring him along in a positive direction.

Only a total asshole has the mox to call kids losers. I'm a total asshole. I enjoy being a total asshole. Yet even I refuse to call kid's losers. Got no problem with calling parents losers.


I sure as hell hope to christ you aren't saying that crap around your son, or anyone else in the world. No one needs to be subjected to that sort of verbal abuse. Not only do you confess to beating him into submission you refer to his friends as losers. What do you think your son thinks he is in your eyes then?

I'm all about helping parents. But you have absolutely no right to be a parent if you continue your prevailing attitude. Find a relative who can do your job for you. Do what is right for your son and let someone else unravel the damage you keep inflicting on your child.

I've had it with YOU. You think "friends" who sell my son pot and cigs at school and encourage him to skip class are "good" friends?

I'm calling "ASSHOLE" on you.

Sorry, everyone else.

[Ganja]

I've long since pondered a thread for such posts. "All Time most amusing posts" thread. Something in on that vien.

Sure, like a sort of "best-of" or something...  

Although they're funnier when interspersed throughout threads like this one.

[Anonymous]

Really please take this next line personally.

It is in regards to his loser friends comment.


But honestly go fuck yourself.

You are 100 percent your child's problem. Get your head out of your ass. Stop beating your son into submission, and start cherishing the things he is good at. You after all taught him to act the way he does, now start using positive praise to bring him along in a positive direction.

Only a total asshole has the mox to call kids losers. I'm a total asshole. I enjoy being a total asshole. Yet even I refuse to call kid's losers. Got no problem with calling parents losers.


I sure as hell hope to christ you aren't saying that crap around your son, or anyone else in the world. No one needs to be subjected to that sort of verbal abuse. Not only do you confess to beating him into submission you refer to his friends as losers. What do you think your son thinks he is in your eyes then?

I'm all about helping parents. But you have absolutely no right to be a parent if you continue your prevailing attitude. Find a relative who can do your job for you. Do what is right for your son and let someone else unravel the damage you keep inflicting on your child.

I've had it with YOU. You think "friends" who sell my son pot and cigs at school and encourage him to skip class are "good" friends?

I'm calling "ASSHOLE" on you.

Sorry, everyone else.

I am sorry to inform you that you have become irrelevant and boring within your own thread. This happens sometimes. Please take your ticket to the front counter to reclaim your coat, thank you.

[psy]

Really please take this next line personally.

It is in regards to his loser friends comment.


But honestly go fuck yourself.

You are 100 percent your child's problem. Get your head out of your ass. Stop beating your son into submission, and start cherishing the things he is good at. You after all taught him to act the way he does, now start using positive praise to bring him along in a positive direction.

Only a total asshole has the mox to call kids losers. I'm a total asshole. I enjoy being a total asshole. Yet even I refuse to call kid's losers. Got no problem with calling parents losers.


I sure as hell hope to christ you aren't saying that crap around your son, or anyone else in the world. No one needs to be subjected to that sort of verbal abuse. Not only do you confess to beating him into submission you refer to his friends as losers. What do you think your son thinks he is in your eyes then?

I'm all about helping parents. But you have absolutely no right to be a parent if you continue your prevailing attitude. Find a relative who can do your job for you. Do what is right for your son and let someone else unravel the damage you keep inflicting on your child.

I've had it with YOU. You think "friends" who sell my son pot and cigs at school and encourage him to skip class are "good" friends?

I'm calling "ASSHOLE" on you.

Sorry, everyone else.

I think both of you have valid points.  TSW, is an asshole... but I don't necessarily thinking you should be calling your kid's friends "losers"...  what would some other parents say about your kid?

Besides.  Kids who are called "losers", become "losers".  Why?  If you have a bad rap you might as well make it fit.

What does your son see them as?  If your son sees them as friends...  That's hard to change.  The more control you try to exert over him regarding his friends, the more you will make him want to hang around with them.  He's at a stage in his life when he is trying to assert his independance/identity... and teens don't always do that in the best way.

My advice... and i don't expect you to take it:  Try and guide, rather than control him.

[psy]

Moronic Daddykins

I've had it with YOU. You think "friends" who sell my son pot and cigs at school and encourage him to skip class are "good" friends?

I'm calling "ASSHOLE" on you.

Sorry, everyone else.

Excuse but now you are blaming his friends for his own behaviors? Behaviors that by all accounts are pretty damn tame? Your son is the one who decides to skip school, your son is the one who buys the pot. Your son is the one who makes the decision to do whatever the hell it is that he wants to do.

You on the other hand have insisted on resorting to violence to subdue a 15 year old boy.

Damn skippy I am an asshole. That is by personal choice. Psy, MGDP, Ganja, and the rest didn't pressure me into being an asshole. I take full responsibility for being an asshole onto myself. I don't shift it off onto others.

Don't coming rolling up onto fornits asking for advice when the real problem isn't your son. The real problem is you. You are what is known as a walking clusterfuck of a parent.

You physically abuse your child and call it self defense.

No telling what the hell else you do to him. You don't need advice you need CPS to come take away your son.

What good is it telling him this?

[psy]

Trying Dad.  You're probably going to get the best advice asking DJ for advice directly via PM.  You can ask me for advice as well but he is the qualified one.  This thread is going to hell.

[Ganja]

I've had it with YOU. You think "friends" who sell my son pot and cigs at school and encourage him to skip class are "good" friends?

Ah, I wanted to get to this. Look, even if they ARE losers, it doesn't do you or your son much good to dismiss them as such. Just tell your son what you don't like about them; no need to name-call, you know?

[Dad Trying]

Actually, the military school we were going to send him to, Camden Military Academy, requires the new cadet to sign the application with the parent. And his OCD symptoms were very real, and I doubt he could function there. Also, they require a year's tuition up front and it's nonrefundable.

I have stood up to him every time. Several times it resulted in fist fights. I always win, with him having an aching face or bloody nose. That worked for awhile, but now he wants his way more than he fears losing a fight.

Actually fighting with your child in that way is nothing more than abuse. Do feel free to stop at anytime. You are an adult. You need not have to resort to violence to get your child to respect you. What sort of message are you sending your son when you beat him down?

I'll tell you. After all I sent it a few times myself when working in a program.

Respect me out of fear.

And guess what it is backfiring on you. Why? Because the amounts of fear you are bringing just aren't sufficient to quell his nature. You need not resort to violence to quell violence. It only perpetuates a viscious cycle that will escalate.

I know this personally. It happened to me. I used restraints to quell a rebellion in my group when working at a program. 3 weeks later it had gone from 1 restraint to an average of 17 restraints a day. It took a lot of hard work on my part to turn that situation around. It was after that I started finding other ways to approach the boys. Not the typical jump, scream, leap, and pound into sand technique just because they got pissy and threw a rock at me.

Damn man.. You really have put yourself, and your son in a nasty position, and you want to compound it with a Military school?


YOU NEED MENTAL HELP MORE THAN YOUR SON DOES!

Chill out. He throws the first punches. I defend myself. What should I do, run? Geeze, you need help yourself if you think I enjoy having to fight my own son.

reposted 2-11-07tsw

You are truely a nutjob. I can't really blame your parents for sending you to a TBS. You probably drove them so crazy that they just wanted you gone.

[psy]

Actually, the military school we were going to send him to, Camden Military Academy, requires the new cadet to sign the application with the parent. And his OCD symptoms were very real, and I doubt he could function there. Also, they require a year's tuition up front and it's nonrefundable.

I have stood up to him every time. Several times it resulted in fist fights. I always win, with him having an aching face or bloody nose. That worked for awhile, but now he wants his way more than he fears losing a fight.

Actually fighting with your child in that way is nothing more than abuse. Do feel free to stop at anytime. You are an adult. You need not have to resort to violence to get your child to respect you. What sort of message are you sending your son when you beat him down?

I'll tell you. After all I sent it a few times myself when working in a program.

Respect me out of fear.

And guess what it is backfiring on you. Why? Because the amounts of fear you are bringing just aren't sufficient to quell his nature. You need not resort to violence to quell violence. It only perpetuates a viscious cycle that will escalate.

I know this personally. It happened to me. I used restraints to quell a rebellion in my group when working at a program. 3 weeks later it had gone from 1 restraint to an average of 17 restraints a day. It took a lot of hard work on my part to turn that situation around. It was after that I started finding other ways to approach the boys. Not the typical jump, scream, leap, and pound into sand technique just because they got pissy and threw a rock at me.

Damn man.. You really have put yourself, and your son in a nasty position, and you want to compound it with a Military school?


YOU NEED MENTAL HELP MORE THAN YOUR SON DOES!

Chill out. He throws the first punches. I defend myself. What should I do, run? Geeze, you need help yourself if you think I enjoy having to fight my own son.

reposted 2-11-07tsw

You are truely a nutjob. I can't really blame your parents for sending you to a TBS. You probably drove them so crazy that they just wanted you gone.

uh.. he was staff at a tbs.  not a student.. staff

still want to send your kid off?

[Ganja]

You are truely a nutjob. I can't really blame your parents for sending you to a TBS. You probably drove them so crazy that they just wanted you gone.

This has been fun... So who are you really?

[Anonymous]

This thread is going to hell.

It was meant to by design from post#1.  :wink:

[Anonymous]

Moronic Daddykins

I've had it with YOU. You think "friends" who sell my son pot and cigs at school and encourage him to skip class are "good" friends?

I'm calling "ASSHOLE" on you.

Sorry, everyone else.

Excuse but now you are blaming his friends for his own behaviors? Behaviors that by all accounts are pretty damn tame? Your son is the one who decides to skip school, your son is the one who buys the pot. Your son is the one who makes the decision to do whatever the hell it is that he wants to do.

You on the other hand have insisted on resorting to violence to subdue a 15 year old boy.

Damn skippy I am an asshole. That is by personal choice. Psy, MGDP, Ganja, and the rest didn't pressure me into being an asshole. I take full responsibility for being an asshole onto myself. I don't shift it off onto others.

Don't coming rolling up onto fornits asking for advice when the real problem isn't your son. The real problem is you. You are what is known as a walking clusterfuck of a parent.

You physically abuse your child and call it self defense.

No telling what the hell else you do to him. You don't need advice you need CPS to come take away your son.

when trolling and someone questions who you are.. attaack them .. then they get all emotional and forget the earlier point that you werent real.. come on tsw you know better!