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« Reply #15 on: January 06, 2007, 03:29:18 PM »
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I guess I am just curious how is it people get to be happy. Is that a myth?
You will never find happiness until you stop looking for it.
Lao Tzu, the Tao Te Ching


I use the same philosophy for everything that I lose in my house. The thing I lost last week always pops up when I'm looking for what I lost this week. I figure, the way this keeps up, I will eventually find everything that I have lost in my life, with the exception of the very last item I lose before I die.

Maybe I should just clean my house.
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« Reply #16 on: January 06, 2007, 03:44:48 PM »
When I was in college an English teacher made an interesting statement. She said, "Maybe instead of asking if happiness is possible, we should ask ourselves if it is even desireable. Should even be set as a goal?" I found that thought provoking.

There is a school of thought that believes human learning and advancement only comes from confronting and overcoming problems. That is how we grow and change. Remove the problems (challenges) and we stagnate. Is happiness the equivilent of stagnation? Is happiness the same as complacency or contentedness? People become activists because they are not happy with the current situation.

I personally think that happiness is not an end to seek, but a by product of how you live your life. If, at the end of the day, you like the person in the mirror, you will be a reasonably happy person.

Of course, if one is clinically depressed, it becomes more complicated.
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« Reply #17 on: January 06, 2007, 03:54:50 PM »
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Of course, if one is clinically depressed, it becomes more complicated.


Tell me about it. Stupid brain.  :flame:
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« Reply #18 on: January 06, 2007, 03:58:09 PM »
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We're ~not all "so obsessed," etc.

Yeah I know I meant a larger cultural we, that is what mainstream society defines as success at this point in history. I try not to use the word we because I dont speak for others ... should of used something different.

Ok.. my point was that some of us don't worry that much about what other ppl think of them.. There ~are those of us who really couldn't give a rat's ass on a rat that has crawled up karen's ass and died (or a fiddler's fuck) about that sort of thing..    :D
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« Reply #19 on: January 06, 2007, 04:00:36 PM »
:D  :P  :lol:  :smokin:  ::hatter::  ::burger::  ::bwahaha::  ::cheers::  ::drummer::  ::drummer::  ::deal::  ::rocker::
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« Reply #20 on: January 06, 2007, 04:03:37 PM »
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:D  :P  :lol:  :smokin:  ::hatter::  ::burger::  ::bwahaha::  ::cheers::  ::drummer::  ::drummer::  ::deal::  ::rocker::



Sure, why the fuck not.
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« Reply #21 on: January 06, 2007, 04:07:24 PM »
Hello, Dead Pet Removal?
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« Reply #22 on: January 06, 2007, 04:09:26 PM »
No, that's 282-0246. This is Panda Express, can I help you?
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« Reply #23 on: January 06, 2007, 04:11:25 PM »
Sorry, wrong #..

(redialing)
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« Reply #24 on: January 06, 2007, 04:31:15 PM »
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« Reply #25 on: January 06, 2007, 04:45:47 PM »
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"I burned all my correspondence, letters, notes and journals years ago at the advice of a psychologist I was seeing at the time. I also wrote a letter to all the people who wronged me and then we burned it together in a symbolic gesture of moving on. But that obviously didn't work. Now I wish I had that paperwork to look through sometimes."

Burning the letter to the people who harmed you was probably helpful since you can't take more violent measures without hurting your self but burning the other stuff may have seemed like a good idea at the time but I'm with you in that it would now be helpful to be able to go over it as you worked your way out of the psychomess you were thrown into and gained some distance and perspective.  I kept many of the same type of papers then burned them because they were too traumatic to reread.  Later as I matured and was able to examine past issues from an emotional distance and then reexamine from a more mature perspecitve I wished I had them to fill in the blanks.  



"I think something that is pervasive is the attitude that perception is reality. Program parents are an extreme version of this. They desperately need to control the perception of what they are doing, both in public and their own minds."

Yeah aint that the truth!  That is why they are such easy prey for the Edconartists.

"It seems like a lot of people are doing that. I do it to all the time. Trying to build up an impressive exterior (good job, a house, car) to make the perception that I am doing fine and have my shit together, when the truth is much different than what people are seeing. So why are we all so obsessed with keeping up this perception in our society? "

Its all a con job dedicated to keeping you in excruciating debt!  You will truly have your shit together when you focus on exploring what your real values are and away from what "society" approves of.  Why work for that approval?  It changes all the time and you can NEVER keep up with it so fuck 'em and enjoy life!

When you stop caring about keeping up your own perception, other people get angry. They don't want to see what really is there and so they try and change it. But I get to a point where I feel like building a paper castle has no point. Looking out from the inside I know it's all an illusion, so who is it really for. Not me. Time to burn this paper castle down.


Yeah well fuck them!  You will find as you exit your paper castle that you will attract people who are attrracted to "what is really there" and who won't want to change it, they will want to celebrate it!  This means you are getting healthier by the minute.  Good luck!
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« Reply #26 on: January 06, 2007, 05:41:03 PM »
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give a rat's ass on a rat that has crawled up karen's ass and died (or a fiddler's fuck) about that sort of thing..    :D

Good one, Toker! Maybe you can smoke that program whore out of her filthy hole!!!!!!  ::rocker::  :rofl:
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« Reply #27 on: January 06, 2007, 05:49:43 PM »
I'm sorry but what did this "Karen" do to piss everyone off?
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« Reply #28 on: January 06, 2007, 05:51:44 PM »
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I'm sorry but what did this "Karen" do to piss everyone off?


had kids?
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« Reply #29 on: January 06, 2007, 06:00:08 PM »
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I'm sorry but what did this "Karen" do to piss everyone off?


flamers from another thread, seeping into this one. If you have several hundred years, read through the carlbrook thread.

Short story version: she's a mom who sent her kid to carlbrook and then second nature wilderness. Believed in the program, and talked a lot of program crap on the boards about how great carlbrook was, and was quite persistent and obnoxious about it. Now she's starting to talk with her son and  have second thoughts about it, cause he sure as hell hated it, and he's letting her know. However, she hasn't been able to entirely let go of all of the bullshit just yet. Very stubborn in that regard. Username: charly. But she will also come on anonymously.

This is not to be confused with BuzzKill, who is also named Karen.

Carlbrook thread: http://fornits.com/wwf/viewtopic.php?t=10982&start=2205

If you want to talk Karen, that's the place to do it. This thread really has nothing to do with her.
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