My ex husband has borderline pd--or at least that is what therapist and family and I think. He's one of those people who can make a good impression, but is crazy making--even the therapist can't work with him, and absolutely denies he has it. HIs family, mine, and me have had to deal with the repercussions and also the frustration of dealing with someone who is crazy making, doesn't know it, and drives everyone else to insanity. I never even knew about BPD until after I married him... Incidentally, he caught me with the book, and has diagnosed me and others while still proclaimimg himself normal. To make matters worse, he has become "born again" which means he uses God to justify his loopy perspectives. In spite of the severe amount of pain and cost to all of us, he still thinks of me as his best friend (even though I do my best to steer clear) and love of his life, and idealizes me to the status of an angel---or I'm a no good dirty whore--never in between. His family is spent; I'm spent and why do I give a fuck? Because he is my children's father, is obsessed with them, and is actually a caring, loving Dad if wacky in the head. (He can't differentiate between him and them. He ha sa headache--he is convinced they are etc. This is one of my more mild comparisons.)I am stuck a state away from family , feeling like I'm basically living at the whim of the Emperor with no clothes. Instead of everyone saying "hey look! ya got no clothes on!" the strategy of the family is to walk on eggshells with him. No one is direct about the extreme amount of inconvenience and loss we have experienced with him. (And he really doesn't get it.) I could tell him I was raped yesterday and if I cried about it, he would seriously ask me "hey what's wrong? why are you crying?"
I'm tired. I never know what crazy thing he will come up with next.
Has anyone here had BPD, know about it, treated it, or know how I can deal with it? I'm great with people having bipolar or depression--this one eludes me.