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« Reply #15 on: October 11, 2006, 11:55:59 AM »
People in Borderline relationships sometime speak of the BPD dance.
Its how one reacts to the constant flux between being on the pedestal and being in the gutter. It is the responsibility of the non partner to stop dancing. I think the following lyrics illustrate this dance pretty well - from the non's POV. And as an extra bonus - there is an awesome clip to view - don't miss it - it's a really something.


Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na
Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na


All you used to do was put me down
But I found a way to pick myself up off the ground  -

And all you used to do was criticise me
But now I found the good and I emphasise, ya see

You would always get so sensitive -
And try to turn your transgressions, into my guiltiness

But now I'm certain of the way I live
And what I'm responsible for, in this twisted game
And it's such a shame
That you try to make pain
Another word for my name

Whether giving or receiving
It's one the same
Just one more link
In your long-ass chain

But it's time to break
This frame and my strengthful will
Time to jump off this negative cycle we've built

Gave my heart
But my self-respection you won't steal
Now it's time to let ya know if you can hear me feel me

Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na
Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na

So I asked my momma for her two cents
And then I asked my little sister, and I asked my friend
Then I asked my poppa once, and I asked him again
Came two little consensus from all them opinions -

That life is too short to be unhappy
And since I know what I'm worth, there'll be no settling for dirt

Knowing what I deserve is gold -
If I want diamonds then I can't settle for coal !

Maybe I was just too strong to let go
Maybe I was just too weak to let it show
Maybe I was just too stubborn to say "No"
But whatever the case, I can't take it no more!

Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na
Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na
Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na
Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na

 
Sometimes I think maybe we'll patch it all up -
Like a favourite pair of jeans that you won't give up on

Or maybe one of these arguments will make up
And start again like when we started this up
Back when everything was fresh
And every moment a blessing
I'd laugh at all of your jokes
You'd listen to my suggestions
One mind, one soul,
With common decimation

Now we can't help but fight over the direction!
 
 Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na
Na, na na, na na na, naaa na na, na na na

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid ... y+slim+WJF
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« Reply #16 on: October 12, 2006, 09:39:51 PM »
OK - I have tried to ignore this - but I find I can't.

In the final three lines of the lyrics (as found on a song lyrics web site) the word decimation, should be Destination.

Might be other mistakes too - but that one was buggin me.

I feel better now.
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« Reply #17 on: October 13, 2006, 01:00:13 PM »
Borderlines cause emotional disasters wherever they go.
I learnt to forgive the borderline in my life when I realised what an entirely miserable existence she must lead and how absolutely demeaning it must be to have to have the urge to manipulate people into liking you or feeling sorry for you all the time. All that histrionic and attention-sdeeking behaviour as well.
That overwhelming fear of abandonment and low self-esteem must be hard to live with.
Of course, I have nothing to do with her anymore and that has made the forgiveness process easier.
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« Reply #18 on: October 13, 2006, 07:12:49 PM »
The Borderline in my life is great at duping the world at large--just his family and mine live with the bullshit.  Right now, he is great with kids--though over identifies--but they are going to be fucking confused as all hell when they get older and have him blurring reality all over the place.

And, it would give me some satisfaction, after being abused, to know he was miserable, but he is blissfully unaware of how he affects all of us, and just traipses through the meadow of happy oblivion.
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« Reply #19 on: October 14, 2006, 11:51:24 AM »
Sounds like you're the one with the problem.
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« Reply #20 on: October 14, 2006, 12:43:52 PM »
Yeah, it is my fucking problem.
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« Reply #21 on: October 14, 2006, 07:54:32 PM »
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Yeah, it is my fucking problem.
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« Reply #22 on: October 14, 2006, 08:32:14 PM »
Its everybody's problem.
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« Reply #23 on: October 15, 2006, 12:11:49 AM »
"Get Me Out Of Here" by Racheal Rhiland (sp?)

is a great memoir of a first person account of BPD. Look in your local Borders in the psychology section. This is one of my favortie books of all time. It's a really sad but imspiring story! And it has a good ending!

Good Luck!
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« Reply #24 on: October 15, 2006, 01:20:46 AM »
It's a congenital prozac deficiency.
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« Reply #25 on: October 15, 2006, 10:07:37 AM »
"It's a congenital prozac deficiency."

I get the joke--and yeah, people are overdiagnosed and medicated.

But Borderline is a different balllgame. It is not depression or bipolar--mood disorders.  Borderline is a personality disorder--much harder to treat etc.  (To put it in context--a sociopath has a personality disorder; a narcissist has a PD... so does a borderline.) It is very frustrating for people who are NON-BPs to deal with --many therapists won't even touch it. But we have to if the person is a family member or connected through kids.
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« Reply #26 on: October 15, 2006, 02:53:46 PM »
What's the difference between the terms "defective personality",  "personality disorder" and "natural born asshole"?
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« Reply #27 on: October 15, 2006, 03:49:59 PM »
Nuthin'.
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« Reply #28 on: October 15, 2006, 03:52:02 PM »
Because it oversimplifies.  But  with some disorders, if you know what it is, you know how to deal with it better, anyway.

Who the fuck knows. At this rate, I'm just feeling hopeless about everything.

I just hate having to deal with this asshole, and I'll take what is classically referred to as alkies, stoners, manics, depressives, schizos, ADDs, or just plumb fucking crazy over this schmuck any day of the week.

At least there is a cure for virginity.
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« Reply #29 on: October 15, 2006, 08:42:21 PM »
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I just hate having to deal with this asshole, and I'll take what is classically referred to as alkies, stoners, manics, depressives, schizos, ADDs, or just plumb fucking crazy over this schmuck any day of the week.


So just step away from the asshole. Why the need to pathologize him/her?
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