exhausted
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Member # 5259
This is what I don't understand, I will always refuse to do my kids a favour if they treat me badly, I would have done (and have done) exactly the same thing, only this morning my daughter was shouting at me that I needed to get to the car NOW! As she was going to be ;ate for college, so i told her to shut her mouth & to remember I was doing her the favour, not the other way round, she went to make a comeback but I got there 1st telling her if she said another word, those things on the ends of her legs would be taking her, she shut up then
However my boys would just carry on and on - I'll refuse to take them, they'll refuse to go to school, simple as that, I then get grief and threatened to be taken to court by the education department for non attendance, even though I stand my ground, they still do the same things over and over.
As for counceling to help me gain strength over all of this, I wish I could get some help - my GP refuses to help out & it's the only way I can get it, it has to be a referral from him, but he won't make one, he isn't livinvg it so it's not an issue
You're all right about my eldest, he's been very good compared to how he was before he went in prison, I can honestly say that was my only one complaint about him the other night, but this can't go on, he's not trying to get a college placement or a job, he also can't keep sleeping on my sofa, it is about how I feel, I feel awful asking him to leave when he has nowhere to go because he is truly trying to keep out of my way and not upset me, I rarely see him, but I know the influence is stil there, if I could get him to see that just saying to the younger two that he isn;t interested in their stupidity it would help alot, they'd stop trying to be like he was and maybe pull their socks up - I'm just at a loss as to what to do with it all, throwing out the son who is trying so hard to show me he is willing to change seems so harsh, he's making the effort & I'm afraid I'll damage that by kicking him out anyway....I don't want him to think there's no point in making the effort when no one will be there for him either way, I also don't want him turning to crime again in order to survive and/or finding hiself homeless and needing a warm bed, food and everything else the prisons seem to give them
galen
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Member # 5237
Good job, Helene. I hope you're still feeling good about your stand this morning. Enough is enough!